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Patience is love, but boundaries are peace.

It wasn’t always like this. Sometimes you do have to mold a man to love you the way you need and deserve to be loved — instead of assuming he should just ‘figure it out.’

But here’s the truth — being able to show up as your true, authentic self is key in every relationship. Because when you can be real, that’s where love actually grows.

Now don’t get it twisted — I’m not saying stay just to ‘teach him.’ What I’m saying is, if he’s willing to grow and change to make you happy, patience goes a long way. Not everyone was taught how to love properly, and it’s okay to guide someone who’s open to learning.

But here’s the line — if you find yourself repeating the same things over and over, reminding him of the basics? RUN. You’re not here to raise another woman’s son. 🤍✨

#loveispatient #loveisnurturing #loveiskind #beingabetterpartner

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