Date someone who LIKES you ♥️
Personally, I know I’ve dated guys who I thought I loved and thought the love was reciprocated back to me. But I couldn’t have been more wrong 😑 It wasn’t until I started dating someone who ACTUALLY showed me genuine love and care and nurtured me mentally that I realized I wasn’t being loved I was being played and accepting less than the bare minimum.
Like… get this… ⬇️
• 🥤I have a hard time even asking the guys I’ve dated to buy me a can of Coca Cola, sad right? I know. I would give them money if they ask and spoil them with gifts but it was never reciprocated. 🤦🏽♀️ and I’m not even materialistic but come on…
• 🗣️I also have a hard time verbalizing something that bothers me and it takes me time to do so. With past guys I was always rushed and felt like I wasn’t heard, having to constantly repeat myself on the same topic on multiple occasions while being brushed off or called “Annoying” or gaslit. I’m now with someone who lets me take as much time as I need to verbalize what is on my mind ( even while he’s on the toilet 😂) and actually wants me to ask him to get me stuff. Lol, he even has me practice asking because I literally cannot ask and he doesn’t want me to buy him anything although I still do. 🤭
• I’m the one always spending my money to go see a guy wherever he lives but get treated like a stranger once I’m there. But this guy is saving up to come see me, planning the dates and actually has intent. ✈️
• Past guys either didn’t show me off or never stated clear intentions. This new guy calls me his wife, talks about our future, introduced me to his friends and his family members! ( Eeek! 😛)
• I’m going through a lot ( aren’t we all ) health wise and although I’m a happy person, I have my very sad days, weeks and months where I rather not talk to a soul. I climb into my shell and want to disappear into oblivion. It takes me the whole day to muster myself up to shower or eat a meal, I rather sit in bed and sleep or watch Netflix. This guy understands that and will stay on the phone ALL DAY with me even while he’s at work and let me be… still. In limbo. Until IM READY. He listens to everything I have to say. I’ve never cried to a guy so much about so many things before and he listens and consoles me so well. Again… never realized I couldn’t do that with past relationships.
So ladies, please date people that actually LIKE YOU. That respect and want to nurture your body, soul and mind. ♥️ #letschat #blackgirldating #relationships #unfiltered #Lemon8Diary #datingadvice
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This is alllllll so real! I love your advice and the way you worded it was amazing 🔥