Why are we forced to wear this?

I’ll never get why girls’ swimsuits are basically glorified underwear while guys get to rock what’s essentially shorts. It’s so unfair, no matter what I pick, I end up feeling exposed like I’m not fully dressed.

Bikinis are just bras and undies with a fancy name and the last thing I want is to wear that around boys or even other people. One-pieces? They hug every curve so tightly, I might as well be in a leotard (or nothing at all). Bottoms are barely more coverage than regular underwear! When I say I don’t want to change into one or just want to stay inside, everyone’s on my case: “you’ll have fun once you’re out!” “Don’t be a downer!” “Everyone else is enjoying themselves!” It’s exhausting.

Why can’t there be more swimsuits that let girls feel comfortable and covered? And why do people insist on pushing me to wear something that makes me cringe just to “fit in”?

#Letschat #Askelmon8 #SwimsuitStruggles

2025/12/8 Edited to

... Read moreMany girls and women share the same frustration when it comes to typical swimsuits feeling like underwear rather than proper swimwear. This sense of discomfort often stems from the way female swimsuits are designed — bikinis resemble bras and panties, while one-piece swimsuits cling tightly to the body, leaving wearers feeling overly exposed. This contrasts with many male swimsuits, which are usually loose shorts that provide more coverage and comfort. The disparity raises an important question about why swimwear options for girls tend to prioritize style at the expense of comfort and personal boundaries. It's key to recognize that feeling self-conscious or pressured into wearing swimsuits that make you cringe can negatively affect your confidence and enjoyment at the pool or beach. Social pressures like "you'll have fun once you're out there" or "everyone else is doing it" can exacerbate those feelings, making it harder to assert your own comfort needs. Thankfully, there is a growing awareness around this issue. Brands and designers are starting to offer more inclusive swimwear options, such as modest swimsuits that provide greater coverage without sacrificing style. Look for swimwear that uses softer, stretchy fabrics and accommodates a variety of body shapes comfortably. Tankinis, swim dresses, rash guards, and high-waisted bottoms can also be excellent alternatives that help you feel covered and confident. Choosing swimsuits that fit your comfort level is empowering and helps challenge outdated norms about how girls 'should' dress in swim settings. Remember, swimwear is about your comfort and enjoying yourself—not fitting into a limited and uncomfortable mold. By voicing these concerns and supporting inclusive swimwear options, we encourage a future where all girls can feel confident, protected, and truly comfortable in what they wear.

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girlie that’s because you’re in a lingerie shop,,,, posting underwear that you’ve mistaken for a bikini😭 this is the exact product from your picture. it’s labeled & sold as a bra & panties set, not a swimsuit. it’s perfectly fine to want modest swimwear for yourself, but don’t expect every store, especially a lingerie shop, to cater to your desired level of modesty

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I gave up swimsuits have my own pool and swim naked.

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