College social anxiety 😓

I started orientation week today and promised myself I’d talk to people and finally be more outgoing.

Spoiler: I didn’t. I sat alone, didn’t make a single connection, and now I feel like something’s wrong with me.

I’ve always had extroverted friends who carried the social part for me, but now I’m on my own and it’s terrifying.

I’m studying business literally a career that’s all about people and I can’t even start a convo. I want to change. I need to change.

Any advice for someone socially awkward and starting fresh in college?

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2025/8/13 Edited to

... Read moreStarting college can be an overwhelming experience, especially for students struggling with social anxiety. Orientation week is designed to help freshmen build connections, but for many, it can feel intimidating and isolating. It's important to recognize that feeling alone or awkward at first is a normal part of the transition. Social anxiety is characterized by fear or discomfort in social settings, which may cause avoidance of conversations or group activities. When entering college as a business major—a field that requires strong interpersonal skills—the pressure to engage with others can increase feelings of worry or self-doubt. One vital step in managing college social anxiety is understanding that you're not alone. Many students face similar challenges during orientation. Techniques such as deep breathing, mindfulness, and positive self-talk can help reduce anxiety symptoms. Setting small, achievable goals, like greeting one person a day or participating in group discussions, can gradually build your confidence. Utilizing campus resources like counseling centers, social skills workshops, and student clubs related to your interests provides safe environments to practice social interactions. Joining study groups or business clubs can connect you with peers who share your academic and career goals, easing conversations and establishing rapport. Remember that extroversion is not a requirement for success. Introverted or shy individuals can also excel by leveraging their unique strengths, such as listening skills and empathy. Seeking support from counselors or peers when feeling overwhelmed is an important part of self-care. Additionally, reflecting on your experiences each day and celebrating small social wins reinforces positive progress. Over time, these steps declutter the anxiety around socializing and foster meaningful connections, essential for both personal growth and professional networking in your business career. Orientation is just the beginning of your college journey. Patience and persistence, combined with practical strategies, will empower you to overcome social anxiety and fully embrace the opportunities ahead.

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Will pass to you my father’s advice to me many years ago. You can start a conversation by asking anyone a question that’s not too personal or on a disputed subject. Don’t ask when was the last time they had sex, and don’t ask if they think Trump is an asshole. Both very bad choices of questions. Better choices: is this where we sign up for swim team tryouts? When are the term papers due? Love your bike, where did you buy it? Do you know what the rules are for taking the first drivers test? Enough examples so you get the idea? I have been using this type of questions for years to start conversations with great results! Try it out for a while and text me back how it works. Any more questions for me on this subject??? Text me!

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My best friend is a huge extrovert, so I literally started asking myself, “What would Anna do?” and then I did that lol

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