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Psychiatrist Suggested I Be a Housewife

I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD multiple times, but after moving, losing paperwork, and seeing a new psychiatrist, apparently my “below-average processing speed and working memory” aren’t severe enough to count as a disorder. Even though my memory is literally a sieve and my mind wanders to the furthest corners of the galaxy, the takeaway from my session? Maybe I should consider being a housewife… like my mom.

So, in 2025, it’s apparently easier to recommend a life change than to actually treat a disability. I guess I’m supposed to just… forget deadlines, reports, instructions, and cope quietly. Glad we solved that.

Has anyone else gotten advice this ridiculous from a professional? How do you even respond?

#asklemon8 #cozychat

2025/12/14 Edited to

It's unfortunately not uncommon for people with ADHD to face misunderstandings or dismissive attitudes from professionals, especially when their symptoms don't fit neatly into diagnostic criteria. ADHD involves issues like below-average processing speed and working memory challenges, which can severely impact daily functioning, even if traditional tests don't always reflect severity. Being told to 'just be a housewife' in 2025 can feel both dismissive and outdated, as it ignores the complexities of living with neurodivergence. Many with ADHD strive to manage their condition with tools like cognitive behavioral therapy, medication, coaching, and accommodations, but when a healthcare provider suggests lifestyle change over treatment, it can feel invalidating. For those experiencing similar advice, it can help to seek a second opinion from specialists familiar with adult ADHD. Advocating for oneself by tracking symptoms, documenting challenges, and explaining how these affect work and life can support better care. Community support, through forums or groups like those on Lemon8 or ADHD organizations, can be invaluable. Sharing experiences about misguided advice and successful coping strategies helps build understanding and resilience. Remember, ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition that deserves appropriate recognition and treatment. Suggestions that reduce a person’s potential to outdated roles undermine their capability and well-being. It is important to keep pushing for assessments and treatments that reflect current medical understanding and support individual goals rather than limiting them.

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Change psychiatrists. I did the moment mine told me “ all Mexican men are hot headed and don’t like to be questioned “. I got tf out of there with a graceful smile.🤗

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