My boyfriend doesn’t like my makeup
I was really excited about this new makeup o got at target and because I had no where to go that day I decided to try out some new techniques I’ve seen lately. I literally never wear makeup, literally never so I don’t have a lot of practice. He shared multiple times in person on text and over the phone that he didn’t like it and ”really ducking gates that shit”. It made me really sad.
I then went in to the store to get some pastries (for my birthday) and the first thing girl who helped said was how pretty my makeup was. I just started crying I couldn’t help it and that made me realize just how affected I was by what he’d said. 😞
Also just to clarify, he has ver specific taste and anytime I suggest he wears something else he says no so it’s really not true that he thinks of what I would like because what I would like is for him to wear something other than a black graphic tea and gym shorts with vans and a hat.
He specifically says he likes when I wear plain black tops and tank tops with leggings, yoga pants, and vans. Literally whenever I wear a colorful top or something other than a plain black tee and leggings I can tell he doesn’t like it😪
I know my blush was probably to dark and too much but like I said I wanted to try it. Same for my lips. Suggestions?!?!
Navigating a relationship where your partner openly dislikes your makeup choices can be challenging and emotionally taxing. It’s important to remember that makeup is a form of self-expression and creativity, and experimenting—even with looks that may not please everyone—is a healthy part of personal growth. Communication plays a vital role in addressing tensions about appearance preferences. Sharing honestly how his comments impact your feelings, while listening to his concerns, can open the door to mutual understanding. It’s helpful to find a compromise where you feel confident in your look and he respects your autonomy. When trying new makeup techniques, especially as a beginner, consider opting for natural or neutral tones first. These tend to be more universally flattering and can serve as a gentle introduction for both you and those around you to your evolving style. Soft blush shades and subtle lip colors may feel less overwhelming yet still highlight your efforts to try something new. If your boyfriend expresses a strong preference for minimalistic or monochrome styles—not just in his tastes but also regarding your fashion and makeup—explore ways to incorporate a splash of color or a trendy element that feels true to you without causing friction. For example, lip tints, tinted moisturizers, or light eye shadows might strike a balance between plain and bold. Emotional impact is significant when negative feedback comes repeatedly from someone important. Receiving compliments from others—even strangers—can boost self-esteem and validate your efforts. It’s okay to cry and acknowledge those feelings; vulnerability shows authenticity. Remember that your worth is not defined by one person’s opinion but by your confidence and self-care. Lastly, consider seeking support and advice from makeup communities or professionals who can recommend products suited to beginners that enhance natural beauty gently. Learning makeup techniques through tutorials can also build your skills and confidence, making it easier to choose looks that you love. Ultimately, your journey with makeup is yours alone. Balancing your happiness with relationship dynamics requires empathy, patience, and self-respect. Keep exploring your style, because feeling beautiful should start with how you see yourself first.
My suggestion? Leave his ass. Because theres no need for him to “share with you how he feels”. It’s your make up. Thats not what he should be sharing his FEELINGS on. My fiancé tells me I’m beautiful without AND with makeup. Like an over exaggerated, hype up man EVERY DAY. there’s no need at all for your bfs reaction. Throw the whole man away baby because you’re gorgeous and deserve better. He’s super weird and insecure over MAKEUP.