Parenting is often seen as a natural step in adulthood, but it’s so much more complex than simply feeding and providing. Reflecting on my own journey, I realize how important it is to have solid preparation before becoming a parent. Just like the post mentions, at age 29, I could have had multiple kids without ever having the tools to avoid fostering codependency or harmful habits. In my experience, parenting isn’t learned instinctively—it’s a skill that requires intentional growth. Therapy, parenting classes, and emotional education can offer valuable insights into how children’s mental health and emotional resilience develop. These resources show us how to set boundaries, encourage independence, and nurture a healthy parent-child relationship. Without these, parents might unknowingly pass down anxiety or dependence, despite their best intentions. Moreover, society’s minimal expectations of parenting—simply working hard and feeding children—can create a false sense of accomplishment. There’s so much more needed to raise emotionally secure and responsible adults. Red tape or requirements around becoming a parent could encourage serious consideration and preparation, much like requirements for driving or professional licensing. The concept of 'bare minimum' parenting often goes unchallenged but should be reconsidered. Emotional labor and understanding children’s psychological needs are just as crucial as physical care. I’ve learned, sometimes through trial and error, that addressing these needs directly impacts the child’s development and the overall family dynamic. In conclusion, parenting demands more than providing—it needs education, self-awareness, and sometimes external support like therapy. It's a responsibility that benefits from deliberate preparation to avoid perpetuating cycles of dependency or neglect. Sharing these reflections helps normalize the need for such preparation and encourages potential parents to seek knowledge before diving into this life-changing role.