Birthdays often bring mixed emotions, especially when they involve complicated family dynamics. Some people choose to acknowledge these days in unique ways, sometimes using social media or neighborhood apps to share their feelings and stories. In this case, the author marks the birthday of a person they refer to as "notdad/abu$ers" by posting the individual’s mugshot annually on the local neighborhood app where that person lives. This act can be seen as a way to process emotions, raise awareness, or simply acknowledge painful personal history. While mugshots are typically associated with arrest records and public accountability, using them in personal posts can also highlight the complexity of family relationships and past abuses. Sharing such content on neighborhood platforms can have various impacts. It informs local residents and may spark conversations about safety, justice, or healing. At the same time, it raises questions about privacy and the ethics of posting sensitive images publicly. For those dealing with similar situations, it’s important to find healthy outlets for emotions, whether through open dialogue, support groups, or personal reflection. Annual posts can serve as reminders of growth and survival as well as opportunities to educate others about difficult family realities. If you or someone you know faces challenging relationships related to abuse or other hardships, seeking support from trusted friends, counselors, or professional services can be valuable. Community platforms may provide space for expression but always consider the potential consequences and the feelings of all involved. Recognizing painful histories openly, yet responsibly, can contribute to personal healing and communal understanding.