Identity Crisis 😞
hey y’all. My name is Ashley and I am a young mom of two boys and I moved to Colorado from Texas last year.
I don’t really have friends here yet, so collectively i don’t really have anyone to talk to about my feelings (lol)
So i guess i am going to start using this as a virtual diary in hopes to meet some fellow ladies and hopefully feel less alone.
Before I had kids i was adventurous, i died my hair colors i liked, had all kinds of piercings, went dancing with friends religiously (it brings me sooooooo much joy), id work out 3-5x a week consistently, ate fairly healthy and just really LOVED life.
Since i having kids i moved away from all my friends and family. First to Lubbock, then Rockwall, and now we are in Colorado Springs. I don’t have girl friends, i dot. leave my home, i don’t do things that genuinely make me happy and feel like something other than a wife and mom. I feel like i have lost my spark, my confidence and sometimes my will to live.
Now don’t get me wrong. i absolutely ADORE my children and love them with my whole heart. I would never change my life and i am so so happy they’re my boys. But i just don’t feel like i belong to myself anymore. i’m everything everyone else needs and nothing to myself.
i’m not really sure if this makes sense. and maybe i am alone in this but i just had to get it off my chest. I just miss being happy and doing that’s that fill my cup. I miss my confidence and healthy lifestyle and just all the friends and support i once had. I just hope i get happier and better soon.
Many new moms experience an identity crisis as they transition into motherhood, feeling lost between their former selves and their current roles. It’s crucial for mothers to recognize and navigate this transformative period. Establishing a support system, whether through new friends or online communities, can provide a sense of belonging and understanding. Activities like journaling or participating in local events can help reclaim personal interests and spark joy. Furthermore, remembering to prioritize self-care is key; taking time for oneself fosters emotional well-being. Seeking professional support can also be beneficial, providing tools and strategies to cope with feelings of isolation or loss. Connecting with local parenting groups may enhance interactions, creating friendships that support emotional health. Ultimately, embracing change while nurturing personal identities can empower moms, helping them regain their confidence and happiness.
Hi there state neighbor! 🥰 (I live in NM) I’m a first time mom, 25 yrs old and my little guy is 3 months old. I am currently on maternity leave and can’t help but have moments where I feel the way you are. I feel so guilty missing work when I know how blessed I am to have this time to raise my baby.