What is ❤️ self-love??
"Brother, fill yourself up.
How is it filled? And when will it be filled? "🥺❓
This sentence made Lil laugh.
Not because of a funny question...
But because it's an "honest" question,
And "very good" as ever heard.
Not long ago, Lil was talking to her sister.
She said that he often attracts people with the same knot.
Found only an unclear relationship
No honor. The loop is like this. 🔄
Until you concluded to yourself that...
"I have to come back and love myself.
Fill yourself up first.
Good love will come. "
But the doubt in his heart broke out that...
"But elder...How does it have to be added?
Must be more beautiful? Must be richer?
When will it be filled? "
Today, Lil wants to share the answer.
That Lil answered you sincerely
Anyone who is wondering too...Try reading it. 👇🏻
❌ A trap that most people misunderstand.
Many people think
"Fill yourself up" = "Find something to put in."
💄 must be more beautiful.
🏆 need to be better.
💪 have to be so strong that they don't need anyone.
But psychologically...
The more we try to "fill in" from the outside,
"I'm not enough inside." 🥲
✅ The true meaning of the word "full."
The word "full" does not mean perfect.
But it means "the leak is plugged." 🩹
That leak is called..."Expectation."
That we accidentally let flow out
Leave it to someone else, a job or money.
Because it's driven by "fear."
🌪️ afraid of being dumped.
🌪️. Scared not good enough.
🌪️ afraid if there's no one, we can't stay.
Humans are designed to have endless needs.
The problem is not that we "want" too much.
But where we want..
Go tie it to something "out of control.
📝 Check list: How do you know we're "getting full"?
Do not measure from feelings
Look at the "reaction" when you encounter something bad.
⚠️ "not full" (the leak is still open)
He's silent. 👉 We blame ourselves.
He changed. 👉 We quickly changed ourselves to please.
Money in late / work stumbled. 👉 We immediately felt worthless.
✨ "It's full."
He's quiet. 👉 We're back, taking care of ourselves.
He changed. 👉 We asked ourselves, "Am I still okay?"
Slow money / work stumbles 👉 we solve problems without insulting ourselves.
See that?..The situation doesn't change.
But "our stand" changed. 💖
🌪️ Why are we attracted to the same story repeatedly?
Remember that...We're not attracted to "the same kind of people."
But we attract "situations."
That will force us to find "lessons that have not passed." 📚
If we are still "depleted" (waiting for people to fill)
We will attract people who are not ready to give.
Not a mean universe...
But our internal system still sends the same signal.
💌 Epilogue summary
Fill yourself up. Not stop having a need.
Because we're human, we still want to be scared, still yearn.
But it's "trust and trust yourself." 🫂
Trust that...Even if the fear remains
I can still stand on my legs.
When the heart rests on this kind of trust,
Expectations will gradually loosen.
It's not because we don't want to...
But because we "don't rely on"
And here we feel "enough" for the first time.
Not because it's complete...
But because no longer thinking that
Must be complete...To be valuable. ✨
💬 Which friends have questions?
Or is it allergic to the sound in your head?
Don't be afraid to look bad.
Lil himself had been through that point before.
Try comments to talk
Or after Mike can come to Lil
Because of keeping it alone...Doesn't really help.
Let's find out. ❤️
# SelfLove # Psychology of love # Develop yourself # Mindset ♪ The story that Lil flows
