"Different ages but not different. Lessons to tell you." 🌈✨

Used to think, "Age apart = understanding must be apart."

But when we lived with people in their 40s and 32 years old, we found that differences are not a wall, if we really choose to understand each other. 🤍

💭 Gen Gap between 40 vs 32 in an LGBT + corner.

The 40-year-old grew up in an age when the word LGBTQ + was not as open as today, many had to "hide themselves" or live a life of caution, careful of their peers, while the 32-year-old grew up in an age that became more open, brave to speak, brave to be himself, and the result was... one "careful" because he was hurt, the other "straightforward" because he wanted to be himself.

So there is unintentional understanding of each other, such as why does the other person have to think too much? Why does the other person speak so hard?

🔧 an adaptive approach (from direct experience), what is learned is that "no one is wrong, just grow up in different ways," listen more than judge. 👂

Sometimes what he does doesn't mean he doesn't love, but the way he used to protect himself, explain it instead of guessing. 🗣️

Don't think that the other person will automatically understand us, speak directly, but with softness, respect for each other's pace, ⏳ 40-year-olds may think more about stability, 32-year-olds may still want to find themselves, it's not wrong... just "different moments."

🤍 Empathy is first. Understand first. Right, wrong, later.

What really changes everything is "having empathy." Let's ask ourselves, 👉 if we were him growing up like that, what would we be like? When we start to understand... frustration will be less, quarrels will be lighter, and relationships will be "deeper" without much effort.

Who has experienced this age? Let's share it. 😊

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