The courts didn’t approve my DVPO all because anything on the flash drive that I had that proved the things he did to me and her wouldn’t load on the judges computer. So instead they denied my case. I sat on the stand and told my story and answered questions as they came through. This wasn’t the first time any type of justice was not served. The first time when I decided to charge him back in Nov of 2024 I was considered a high risk pregnancy and was unable to testify on my own behalf or get to the places I needed to to release medical forms for the detectives. So they let the man who str@ngled me go free. He was a marine after all and it was “mutual @buse” in reality the one time I did swing back was after a few months of his violence towards me, his marine buddies “liquor hazed” me the day my sister passed and he gripped my wrist and out of fear I swung. The same man who looked me in the face after we found out I was pregnant and told me he could always get another b!tch pregnant and raise that kid, same man who told me he only married me so I wouldn’t get away from him, same man who called me on a daily basis a whöre, a b!tch, and fat and told me he never loved me. Who told me when I begged him to go get my prnatals from the store threatened that him and his friend were on the way with a 🔫 to teach me “a woman’s place”. He cost me everything. And I left the first time. Last Nov of 2025 his mother messaged me begging to meet her granddaughter and I reluctantly agreed in which led to him and I getting back into contact and him picking me up from the state I was staying in. During my time with his family I was promised an easier life bc at the time I was struggling as a single mom and single income household. I was promised my daughter would have a family which was more than I could offer her and I was promised he went into anger management and was going to continue therapy. I was promised protection by his family etc. Little did I know of the ploy his family and him had to take my daughter from me, in which he let slip the day I ran away with her. The same day he put his hands back on me for defending our daughter and begging him to be a father for her. For help with her. And confronting him on his neglect towards her. He told the judge we fought over finances that day. I had the messages, baby cam footage and pictures of bruising on my wrist. This time around though he would hit her. Scream at me and threaten to claim me mentally unfit as a parent. He’d hit her legs during diaper changes bc she wouldn’t sit still. Smack her mouth for screaming. Left her in tubs full of water unattended, left her on height fall distances where she’d fall and in one instance she broken a wooden heater with her head. He’d leave her in bed for hours on end screaming without changing her feeding her soothing her. In which I have all the proof on the flash drive that wouldn’t load. Now he wants 50/50 custody and I want supervised visitations without asking him for financial help bc honestly I could care less for his money. We are safe for now, hopefully the courts will have justice for this divorce. #domesticviolencesurvivor #domesticabuseawareness #nojusticenopeace
Sharing my experience as a survivor of domestic abuse has been one of the hardest things, but I hope it sheds light on the reality many endure. One thing I learned is that the court system sometimes struggles with technical issues or misunderstandings that can delay or deny justice. For me, critical evidence like videos and photos stored on a flash drive couldn’t be accessed by the judge, impacting the outcome of my case. This is frustrating but important to remember when pursuing legal protection. During pregnancy, especially when classified as high-risk, it can be incredibly difficult to navigate legal processes and testify. Support from medical professionals, detectives, and organizers to obtain necessary medical records can be vital. Sadly, abusers sometimes exploit these vulnerabilities to avoid accountability. The mental and emotional abuse I endured alongside physical violence left deep scars. Words that demean and threaten, threats involving weapons, and neglectful treatment of our child are unfortunately common in abusive relationships. In particular, the neglect and harm experienced by children exposed to domestic violence is a heartbreaking aspect often overlooked. When reuniting with family or the abuser’s relatives, it’s crucial to be cautious. Promises of protection or improved circumstances can sometimes be manipulative. Keeping evidence documented, such as messages, photos, and video footage, is essential even when the abuser denies or distorts reality in court. In custody battles, survivors often face additional challenges. While abusers may seek equal custody, requesting supervised visitation is a way to prioritize child safety without engaging further financially or emotionally. This choice is empowering and can help protect children from continued harm. If you're experiencing domestic abuse, know that you are not alone. Reach out to trusted friends, support groups, or organizations dedicated to domestic violence survivors. Technology like baby cams can offer important evidence but remember to safeguard your digital evidence properly to avoid technical problems in court. Healing is a process—each step toward safety and justice counts. Sharing stories and raising awareness is a powerful way to foster understanding and change, ensuring survivors have the support they need every step of the way.