Is it ok?

I’m fairly new to hinge and online dating “etiquette”. I can generally talk to about 2-3 matches at a time without burning out, but I don’t like to physically date more than one person at a time.

That said, if I’ve traded between 2-10 messages with a match (with no plans to meet) but decide to pursue another in person or that we’re not a good match, am I an asshole if I let go of the conversation? Or is it better if I acknowledge the end of the conversation and tell them I’ve decided it’s not going anywhere?

#AskLemon8

2024/3/15 Edited to

... Read moreIn the world of online dating, particularly on platforms like Hinge, the question of etiquette is paramount. Many individuals may find themselves conversing with multiple matches, leading to dilemmas about when and how to disengage from conversations. The term "ghosting" typically refers to the abrupt cessation of communication without explanation. But is this approach acceptable when you've exchanged only a few messages and haven't met in person? Research suggests that clarity and communication can greatly enhance online dating experiences. While it may feel awkward, providing a brief message to inform someone that you’re moving on can foster a sense of respect and closure for both parties. A simple note like, "Thanks for the chat, but I don’t think this is the right match for me," may be sufficient. Moreover, experts encourage setting clear boundaries when engaging with multiple potential partners. If you realize that you lack chemistry with someone, it’s better to treat them with fairness rather than disappearing from their radar. Not only does this practice uphold good manners, but it also reflects maturity and consideration that many users appreciate in an often impersonal online environment. Ultimately, the choice to ghost or formally end a conversation can depend on personal comfort levels, but the trends lean toward encouraging more open exchanges. Remember, at the heart of dating—be it online or offline—are human emotions. Striving for kindness can make the experience better for everyone involved.

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Becca

It’s okay to ghost over text, usually up to 2-3 dates even. It never hurts to give an explanation though if you are comfortable!

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Summer Celeste

I do the same thing and I’m kinda stuck on this too🥲

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