Has anyone else dealt with a stalker?

There’s this older guy probably in his late 50s, who started coming into my shop a month ago. At first, it was just friendly chat. Then he started bringing me gifts: chocolates, flowers, weird handwritten poems. I tried to be polite because you know customer service. I told him I have a boyfriend (I hoped it would stop him).

It didn't. He said ""he doesn't appreciate you like I would.""

Today, he tried to grab my wrist when I was taking out the trash, saying he just wanted to ""talk."" My manager says he’s harmless and ""just lonely,"" but my gut is screaming that this is dangerous. I need serious advice, how do I shut this down without making him angry or violent? Help!

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2025/12/12 Edited to

... Read moreDealing with stalking behavior in a workplace setting can be deeply unsettling and requires a careful approach to ensure personal safety. In this situation, the man in his late 50s has escalated from friendly visits to bringing gifts like chocolates, flowers, and handwritten poems, and now has crossed physical boundaries by trying to grab the wrist. These are clear warning signs that his behavior is moving beyond harmless loneliness into potentially dangerous territory. One important step is to trust your instincts: feeling unsafe is a valid reason to take action. It may help to document each interaction with the stalker, noting dates, times, and descriptions of what occurred. This record can be important if law enforcement or legal protection is needed. Additionally, inform trusted colleagues and supervisors about the situation to create a support network; they can help monitor the individual and provide assistance if needed. Safety experts often recommend establishing firm boundaries with the stalker while avoiding engagement that could escalate emotions. Saying clearly that you do not continue conversations can be helpful, but only if you do so where you feel safe. Considering the manager describes the man as 'just lonely,' it is crucial to stress that feelings of loneliness do not justify inappropriate or threatening conduct. If the behavior continues or escalates, do not hesitate to contact local authorities or seek a restraining order. Also, consider enhancing personal safety measures at the shop, such as security cameras, door alarms, or even requesting additional personnel during vulnerable times. The OCR content mentioning various chocolates (‘Venchi BUONISSIMO’, ‘CREMINO’, ‘FONDENTE VENEZU’) indicates the kind of gifts the stalker brings, which can sometimes obscure the underlying risk. Receiving sweet gifts may feel awkward but should not be mistaken for harmlessness when physical contact and possessive comments occur. Remember, your safety and well-being are paramount. Connecting with local support groups or counselors who specialize in stalking can provide valuable guidance and emotional support. Ultimately, protecting yourself from a persistent stalker combines setting clear boundaries, seeking help, and having a proactive safety plan in place.

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Insien

Call the cops so you can have paper trail. And be firm with him, that you feel uncomfortable and that you’ve told him multiple times that you’re not interested( if you’ve told him already). Being afraid is their power. Show him none. Keep paper trail, even from your manager, giving you advice discharge as “he’s harmless”. He has done it to past employees. If you can seek them and ask questions. Look for a pattern.

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Brook

Don’t worry about being rude. Be firm and don’t accept any gifts.

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