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Advice for BEFORE you get in a relationship 🫶

I met my boyfriend almost 5 years ago during Covid lockdown of 2020! I have learned SO much since then and we’ve had our ups and downs.

There are a few things I wish I knew before getting into this relationship.

1) I need to heal past traumas - being in a relationship does not heal those wounds from previous relationships and childhood!

2) I need to spend more time alone outside of a relationship - I have a habit of jumping from one situationship or relationship the next! I wish I had spent more time being single to have a better relationship with myself and feel more comfortable being alone.

3) I need to communicate - growing up I was not taught how to communicate. I would just shut down and cry which I carried into my relationship. I would avoid communicating so that wouldn’t happen which has created its own set of problems.

4) I have an avoidant attachment style - this was surprising for me to find out in my relationship! I have a hard time letting people love me and I tend to push away. I’m glad I know this now so I’m aware!

5) it’s not good to not disagree with your partner - it’s healthy to disagree with your partner and learn how to communicate through it! For a long time, me and my boyfriend never argued because I wasn’t communicating how I felt or wanted to have hard conversations.

I’m so glad I’ve learned all of this! What’s something you knew before dating your partner?🥹

#lemon8partner #boyfriend #embracerelationships #relationship #datingadvice101

2025/3/14 Edited to

Entering a new relationship can be exciting yet daunting. It’s vital to approach it with a clear understanding of oneself. One should consider healing past traumas before jumping into a relationship, as unresolved issues can affect current dynamics. Establishing a healthy relationship with oneself is crucial; spending time alone fosters self-awareness and prepares one for deeper connections. Effective communication is a cornerstone of successful relationships. Being able to articulate feelings and concerns not only prevents misunderstandings but also strengthens the bond between partners. It’s important to recognize one's attachment style—understanding whether one possesses an avoidant style can lead to more mindful interactions. Moreover, embracing differences and healthy disagreements is essential; this allows couples to navigate challenges together, fostering growth both individually and as partners. Being aware of these aspects can lead to a more fulfilling and supportive relationship experience. What lessons have you learned from your relationships that shaped your journey? Share your thoughts!

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