Envy is making you ugly and here’s why
Sis, it’s time we get real…
This will take some honest self-reflection, and it will only reach the people who are emotionally aware and open to becoming a better person for the
relationships in their life. Leave denial at the door.
As someone who has dealt with anxiety my whole life, I used to be a huge people pleaser.
It took me being pushed past my breaking point in toxic co-dependent relationships so many times for me to finally realize that people pleasing was getting me no where. I was sick of being taken advantage of.
You see it takes two to tango; one envious person, and one person who also has no concept of self worth to believe what the envious person says.
My point is that; now that I’ve removed myself from these relationships, I’ve grown and learned a lot more about trusting MYSELF…
I’ve also become very sensitive to envious people. 90% of communication is non-verbal, so when I start seeing the subtle clues like the ones that I listed in slide 2, I know to distance myself.
But let’s get to the main point: envy makes you UGLY.
And here’s why:
1. Your passive aggressive, back handed compliments that you think are “funny” are actually your biggest reveal. All it shows is that something about that person succeeding triggers you so much that you need to make it clear to them.
2. Your constant comparison is leading you to have a lower self esteem and lack of ability to trust your own decisions. This will also reflect in your relationships; constantly asking for advice or trying to make your friends look or feel worse than you.
3. When you copy other people (especially after being passive aggressive or giving backhanded compliments) is physically and emotionally damaging. You will probably end up looking worse because you are doing things that don’t suit YOU personally just because it looks good on other people, and you are creating internal dissonance within yourself because deep down you envy the person you are copying. This will also cause conflict and distance in your relationships.
Please please do me one favour after reading this and start trusting YOURSELF more.
Do shadow work and find things that make you feel like YOU.
It will feel scary at first, but once you start trusting your intuition more and doing what feels best for YOU, it will become second nature💕
Hey loves! Building on what I shared in the main post, let's dive deeper into why envy really does make us 'ugly' and how we can recognize it, not just in others, but sometimes even in ourselves. It's a tough pill to swallow, but I've been there, and understanding this has been truly transformative for me. When I say 'ugly,' I’m not talking about physical appearance in the conventional sense, though our internal state often reflects outwardly. Have you ever noticed someone whose face seems perpetually strained or disapproving when good things happen to others? That's the 'envy facial expression' we unconsciously pick up on. It's not about wrinkles; it's about the negative energy, the sneer, the forced smile that doesn't reach the eyes. It creates a barrier, making you unapproachable and, frankly, unattractive in spirit. The OCR even highlighted 'Envy is making you UGLY,' and it’s so true – it distorts our perception and how others perceive us. I used to think my people-pleasing ways would make me more likable, but all it did was attract people who thrived on my insecurity. I've learned that true beauty comes from within, from a place of genuine contentment and self-acceptance. When you're consumed by discontent or resentment for what someone else possesses (as the OCR defined envy), it leaves little room for joy or authenticity. This constant comparison, also listed as a form of envy in the OCR, erodes our own 'jealousy beauty' from the inside. Think about the 'forms of envy' the OCR mentioned: passive aggressive remarks, backhanded compliments, copying. I've been on both sides. Those backhanded compliments? They’re like little emotional jabs. And copying someone? It feels like you're trying to wear a skin that isn't yours, leading to internal dissonance and a loss of your unique sparkle. Recognizing these 'subtle clues' is key. If you're wondering 'how to tell if someone is jealous of your looks' or achievements, look for those subtle shifts in body language, the micro-expressions, the quick dismissal of your good news, or the sudden pivot to their own 'better' story. The article touched on how envy leads to 'poor friendships, low self-confidence, lack of self-worth, inability to make decisions, and constant judging.' This really resonated with me. My past relationships were often plagued by these issues. When you're constantly judging others out of envy, you're also judging yourself. It’s a vicious cycle that drains your energy and makes it impossible to form genuine connections. For me, reclaiming my self-worth meant doing that uncomfortable 'shadow work' – confronting my own insecurities and fears, understanding why certain successes in others triggered me. It's about cultivating a mindset where you genuinely celebrate others' wins because you trust in your own path. It's about finding what makes you feel alive and pursuing it. This journey isn't always easy, but embracing self-trust allows you to shed the 'ugly' mask of envy and reveal the radiant, authentic you. You deserve to feel beautiful, inside and out, free from the grip of comparison and resentment. Let’s choose self-love over envy, every single day.