my truth no one elses
Ok so I need to say my peace and go ahead and judge me because at this point I don't truly care. I need to share my side family court is a FRAUD. In 2017 I moved home to Virginia Beach while Stephan was in Korea for a year. When I went home I had a 5 year old son Jedi and a 18 month old Daughter Faerynn. I went back to my old group of friends and would do game nights because I never had family so I wanted to create my own with friends. Looking back I realize how big of a mistake that was I was also battling post partum from both Jedi and Fae not knowing it. So yes I realized I messed up. Well these friends came over and word got back to Stephan that I was cheating. So he retaliated by asking his ex girlfriend to go into my house without my knowledge and take photos. Stephan knew I had struggled with keeping a spotless house he had also changed bank accounts making me unable to pay bills so I did what any other mother would do and I went and got a job to pay bills. The ex girlfriend I was friends with and was technically the only stable person I knew since she already had kids. I had no idea she would completely destroy my world. She worked with her mother and stephan on removing the children. I made the mistake of falling right into their trap of placing the children in the ex girlfriends care because then the cps opened a case and I followed their direction in making my house clean. They came back in the 72 hours as stated only to come back at me to tell me that my 5 year old claimed I beat him with belts I was confused because I didn't own a single belt. Over the next few days I found out that stephan had come back to the states on emergency leave to sign papers for Jedi and Fae to go into immediate emergency care with his ex girlfriends mother which I know I would have never authorized. I have gone to court 5 times only for them to always rule in the ex girlfriends mother's favor because she has a lawyer. My babies have spent the last 5 years in barracks style living with 6 other children none of the children are related to each other this woman plays the system and knows how it works. Yes I have had 4 other wonderful babies over the years but no matter what people say they will never replace the others. I didn't get to grow with my first born who came to me after I was saed but you know what if it hadn't happend who knows what I would have turned into considering I have never had a support system for parents I was always belittled and put down or ignored because something else was more important. If you read this far thank you but I feel its time I shared my story because I have changed and grown and I know this whether or not people believe this. Have a great day!
Sharing my truth has been a difficult but necessary step in my healing journey. Family court systems can sometimes feel overwhelming and unbalanced, especially when one party is more equipped with legal resources. From my experience, I learned how quickly situations can spiral when misinformation and manipulation come into play. When my children were placed in care due to accusations I later found unfounded, it felt like losing years of precious moments—birthdays, milestones, and everyday memories shared only through photos. The pain of limited visits and the feeling of watching your children grow from a distance is indescribable. It’s like having snapshots of life but missing the full story, which no picture can truly capture. One important lesson I want to share is the significance of a support system. For parents facing such challenges, finding allies—whether friends, family, or community resources—can provide emotional backup and guidance. Building your own 'family,' as I tried with friends through game nights, can help counter feelings of isolation during tough times. Battling postpartum depression without knowing it compounded my struggles, reminding me that taking care of mental health is crucial. If you’re a parent going through court battles or personal hardships, seeking professional help for emotional wellbeing can make a big difference. Lastly, never stop advocating for your children and yourself. Court rulings may not always feel fair, but persistence, self-awareness, and growth can eventually lead to better outcomes. Though I didn’t get to raise my first-born in the early years, I cherish the growth I’ve achieved as a person and a parent. Sharing your story might inspire others facing similar battles to keep hope alive and find strength in vulnerability.
