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Turn yourself in with the 21-day theory. ✨

Make a new habit in 21 days.

Can it be done? 🤍

The 21-day concept comes from Maxwell Maltz's observation.

He found that people take about 21 days.

To get used to something new in life.

Because 21 days is when the brain becomes familiar with something new.

First 1-7 days

We'll feel forced, tired, lazy.

8-14 days

Getting used to it, but still having to force yourself.

15-21 days

The brain will start to remember that

"This is what we do every day."

After about three weeks,

Resistance in the heart will decrease.

It doesn't necessarily mean that change was achieved immediately.

But it's where it "starts getting easier."

21 days.

So it's a short enough time frame not to be discouraged.

And long enough for the brain to start adapting.

Try doing this. 🤍

1️⃣ Choose one habit first.

Don't change many things at once. The brain will fatigue.

2️⃣. Make it as small as possible.

So small that there's no excuse, like reading a 1-page book.

3️⃣ Do the same time every day

The more the same time, the easier the brain remembers.

4️⃣ miss, but don't miss two days.

Because continuity is more important than completeness.

Complete 21 days

And you know... it's getting really easy. 🤍

# Develop yourself # Howtoglowup # Psychology # Best of the year # Self review

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