The holidays can be an especially difficult time for those grieving the loss of a loved one, and this is even more profound for spoonies—individuals living with chronic illness who manage limited energy and emotional resources daily. "LAT PER CON" may be a meaningful phrase or acronym for some, reminding us that grief comes in layers and periods of concentration, requiring patience and self-care. Many spoonies find that grief intensifies during holiday seasons when social expectations and familial gatherings are heightened. Acknowledging feelings of sadness and missing loved ones like a parent is natural and important for emotional healing. It can help to connect with others who understand chronic illness and grief, whether through online forums, support groups, or trusted friends who relate to hashtags like #grief, #diagnosis, and #spoonie. Practicing self-compassion by pacing activities, seeking professional support, and honoring your emotional limits is vital. Keeping it real means accepting that some days are harder than others without guilt or pressure. Sharing your experiences and listening to others can foster community and reduce feelings of isolation. If you’re experiencing diagnosis-related grief or missing a parent during holidays, remember you are not alone. Opening up and reaching out leads to healing, while integrating coping strategies such as mindfulness, journaling, or creative expression can make this challenging time more bearable. Above all, allow yourself to grieve authentically while managing your health needs, supporting your mental wellness along with your physical condition.