My story
Yes. Yes he broke up with me. He didn’t do anything wrong at all or anything. And then Ya’ll bonded over this? That’s yucky behavior. For all of them. Wanted to make me a joke? Thought you’d upset me? Nah. Because this shows even more that I not only deserved better from him, but from his family too. And one day he’ll regret it and for that, I won’t be around for that anymore. But I deserve better and have for a very long time. I just was blind and what I thought was me being in love. I dealt with abuse and one day he’ll finally tell his side of the story that made me be the way he has told his family about, because I wouldn’t be the person I was if it wasn’t for all the abuse I had to put up with. I’m making this post for those of you out there who maybe afraid to break up with that guy because you don’t wanna be alone or this or that. You deserve better. Don’t stay with someone because you don’t wanna be alone. Don’t let them walk on you. Don’t let them treat you like a maid or a mother. You aren’t there to clean up after them and do everything for them. Don’t do things you aren’t comfortable with because they want you to. Don’t allow them to make you do that either. I’ve learned so much in this whole thing, and I deserved better from the very beginning of this. If I was hanging out with him and his family, I was ignored. I was pushed to the side all the time. I was never the first choice. It was always softball. It was always family. I defended him all the time in the past even when he was wrong. Even when he was hurting me. He never once defended me. He let so many people say so many rude things to me. He said so many rude things to me. I ended up in the mental hospital because of him. And he told me I did it to myself. That I let my mental health get to the point it was. No. I dealt with mental, verbal, emotional, sometimes psychical and sometimes sexual abuse from him. But he doesn’t see himself as the problem. I did to to myself right? No. He was the person I trust. Told him all my trauma. Told him pain that I’ve had in the past. And then he went and did the same thing but worse. I promise you if you can run. I should’ve left a long time ago or never came back. Remember fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. I gave him that second chance and I shouldn’t have. The biggest reason he couldn’t wait around is because he couldn’t wait forever to be happy. He didn’t like that I didn’t do things he wanted sexually. I never mattered during that. And to be honest, he’s awful in bed. But there were days after being at work for 10 hours a day with kids, I’m exhausted and don’t wanna do anything. I work with kids and clean all day to come home and have to do the same thing for a man child. I let him walk on me for so long. I let him abuse me for so long I didn’t wanna be alive. I ended up in that mental hospital. If you aren’t happy in your relationship no matter who you are, run. No one is worth ending up in the mental hospital for. Ever. But I’ve also learned one thing in this whole, once a cheater and a lier, always a cheater and a lier. Please anyone out there reading this, do not do what I did. I was with him for almost 9 years. I thought he changed or that he would change, but you know what? Didn’t matter if I had a ring in my finger. Didn’t matter the promises he made to me or my family. They were all broke and I was destroyed. Now I’m doing great. I’m working on myself. I’m doing this to help myself. I will continue to do so. I’m finally starting to get happy again. I’m in the process of the biggest glow up. I’m making myself better. So please anyone reading this please please please don’t let someone take away your light or your peace like I let him. No one is worth it. I look at this video and I just laugh. The best part is he and his family doesn’t know how much I know. #MentalHealth #mentalhealthmatters #MentalHealthAwareness #abuseawareness #abuserecovery
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