Logic meets chaos, we found the middle ground 💚

I’m a true ♋️ that makes me the emotional feel everything at 110% type of person.

He is all logic, “Is the math mathing?” kind of guy. In the early days of our relationship, we had our struggles of understanding why the other person acts a certain way or makes a certain decision. But instead of drifting apart, we made it work.

I slowly come to realise that we actually complement each other’s shortcomings and eventually were able to find a balance. Because when I spiral with feelings, he calmly untangles them. When I overthink, he steps back, zooms out and gives a different perspective of things. Of course this comes with time and lots of open communication. It wasn’t that we eventually became the same, it’s more of we learnt to meet in the middle. Here are the green flags that made the difference:

💚 Emotional safety, even if he didn’t “get it” right away. He never told me I was “too much.” He tried to understand even when he didn’t feel things the same way.

💚 Logic + empathy, not logic vs emotion. He doesn’t shut me down with facts. He holds space for feelings, then helps me reframe things with clarity and lessen anxiety.

💚 Same values, different lenses. Even though we approach situations differently, we both want the same end goal: security, peace, a place to call home.

💚 Conflict wasn’t war, it was curiosity. Instead of blaming, we ask: “What’s really behind this?” He helped me feel heard. I helped him to feel.

💚 Choosing each other over ego. Anytime after an argument or rather just a heated discussion, we would always apologise for any feelings hurt and made sure no misunderstandings remained.

At the end of the day, remember that if it matters, you don’t just let it go. You learn how to hold it better. 🤍 (of course it has to work both ways!)

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