Don’t seek for validation :)

Hey everyone! I wanted to share something that completely shifted my perspective on self-worth. For so long, I felt like I was constantly on a treadmill, running after approval from everyone around me. Whether it was likes on a post, a compliment from a friend, or praise at work, I was always seeking what I now call 'horizontal validation.' It felt good for a second, but then the feeling would fade, and I'd be back to square one, desperate for the next pat on the back. Can anyone relate? It was utterly exhausting and honestly, pretty draining. I realized I was giving away my power, letting others determine my value. The moment someone didn't approve, my self-esteem would plummet. It was like I had this invisible meter, and only external sources could fill it up. But the truth is, that meter is always going to be empty if you rely solely on others. Their opinions are fleeting, based on their own perceptions, and often have nothing to do with your true worth. That's when I discovered the concept of 'vertical validation.' Instead of looking side-to-side for approval, I started looking inward, and upward. It’s about recognizing that your worth isn’t something you earn from others; it’s inherent. You were born worthy. It's a fundamental truth about who you are, independent of what anyone else thinks or says. This shift wasn't easy, but it was incredibly freeing. So, how do you make this shift? For me, it started with quiet reflection. I began to spend time alone, really listening to my thoughts and feelings. Sometimes, I'd just sit outside, watching the sky with clouds, transitioning from blue-grey to a warm yellow-orange hue as the day moved along. There's something really grounding about observing nature, seeing the silhouettes of tree branches against the vastness. It helps put things into perspective and reminds me of my place in something much bigger than daily worries. Journaling became another powerful tool. Writing down my fears, my strengths, and what truly mattered to me helped me connect with my inner voice. I started asking myself: 'What do *I* value?' 'What makes me feel proud?' not 'What will they think?' It sounds simple, but it's a profound change. Setting healthy boundaries also played a huge role. I learned to say 'no' to things that drained me and 'yes' to activities that nourished my soul, even if it meant disappointing someone else. My peace became a priority. Embracing vertical validation means cultivating self-compassion. It means treating myself with the same kindness and understanding I'd offer a dear friend. When I made a mistake, instead of spiraling into self-criticism, I’d remind myself that it’s part of learning and growing. It’s about being your own best friend and cheerleader. The results? A profound sense of inner peace, resilience, and authenticity. I no longer feel the constant pressure to perform for others. My decisions are more aligned with my true self, and my happiness is no longer dependent on external factors. It’s a journey, not a destination, but every step towards vertical validation is a step towards a more genuinely fulfilling life. Remember, you are already worthy. Look up, look within, and trust that unwavering truth.