"Youre doing too much" 🥱
Maybe you were never “too much.”
Maybe you were intense in environments that only knew what to do with quiet women.
Too emotional.
Too ambitious.
Too curious.
Too sensitive.
Too obsessive.
Too passionate.
So you learned to shrink the flame instead of learning how to direct it.
That's becoming one of the central ideas behind MooreEssence:
Your intensity isn't inherently the problem.
Undirected intensity can be.
There is a difference between extinguishing yourself and learning how to hold your own fire.
And I'm becoming far more interested in the second.
🔥 The Woman Who Holds Flame is linked in my bio if this is the work you're doing too.
#SelfDiscovery #PersonalGrowth #WomenSupportingWomen #InnerWork #ShadowWork
Many of us have been told at some point that we are "too much"—too emotional, too passionate, too intense. This message often comes from environments that prefer quiet compliance over vibrancy. I’ve personally experienced the challenge of feeling like my natural intensity needed to be toned down or hidden to fit in. However, through my journey of self-discovery and inner work, I learned that the key isn’t suppressing that inner flame but learning to channel it effectively. When intensity is undirected, it can feel overwhelming both to ourselves and those around us. But this doesn’t mean intensity itself is the problem—it’s about finding the right containers for our energy. Instead of shrinking ourselves to fit small expectations, we can grow new containers suited for our genuine selves. This transformation began for me when I reflected on how I had spent years trying to keep a wildfire shaped like a candle, restricting my enthusiasm and curiosity because they were misunderstood. Practical steps to holding your flame involve deep self-awareness and consistent inner work. It includes embracing emotional sensitivity as a strength, turning ambition into actionable goals, and harnessing curiosity to fuel creative problem-solving. It also means acknowledging moments when intensity becomes unfocused and gently redirecting it rather than extinguishing it. Supportive communities focused on personal growth and women supporting women can provide vital frameworks for this journey. Using tools like journaling, meditation, and engaging in shadow work, I gradually learned how to hold my fire with intention and grace. This approach not only honors my authentic self but also enriches my relationships and professional life. For anyone feeling boxed in by labels like "too much," remember that your intensity is a gift waiting to be embraced and guided. It’s not about doing less, but about directing your energy with purpose and confidence.