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Words to send to someone who has realized that they were raised by a poisonous parent

Words to send to someone who realized that they might have grown up as a toxic parent

"Hello, I'm Sayako, a psychological counselor.

Today, I would like to give you the words I want to give to you who realized that you may have been raised by a poisonous parent. I think that realizing it is a brave step in itself. "

"Have you ever felt an emotion that's stuck somewhere in your heart?

However, having such thoughts may hinder your growth. So, if you change your perspective a little, you may gain new awareness.

5 Words to Send to People Who Realized That You Might Have Raised a Poisonous Parent

1. * * "Try to see your parents as a human being" * *

Parents are also people who need love and support. Knowing the background and story behind their actions and words can change the way you see yourself.

2. * * "Don't justify your feelings" * *

"I often wonder if it's okay to worry about this, but what you feel is all important emotions. Don't deny your feelings and accept them!"

3. * * "Develop self-esteem by yourself" * *

"It is important to take care of yourself, not just the evaluation from others. To do that, start by praising yourself. Let's be aware of small successes every day."

You can t change the past, but you can choose the future.

You can feel the influence of the past, but it doesn t define who you are now. Think about what you can choose for the future. Move forward with a new approach!

5. * * "Healing begins with yourself" * *

Support for others is important, but start the healing process on your own. Spending time loving yourself will enrich your inner self.

"I hope these words lighten your heart even a little. You have the power to overcome the past, so take care of yourself with peace of mind!"

If you found this post helpful, save it!

Please share your experiences and thoughts in the comments. If you want to deepen your self-understanding, please follow me and let's continue our journey together! ✨ "

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... Read more毒親育ちという認識は、心の中に深い影響を及ぼしますが、その気づき自体が回復への大切なスタートポイントです。私自身も過去に苦しい思い出と向き合い、時間をかけて自己理解を深めてきました。 まず、親をただの加害者として見るだけでなく、一人の人間として背景や事情を考えると、寛容さが芽生え、心の重みが少し軽くなることがあります。親もまた傷ついている存在だと理解したことで、自分を責める気持ちが薄れました。 感情を正当化しない気持ちは誰にでもありますが、小さな悲しみや怒りも大切なサインです。私が特に心がけたのは、「自分の感じていることは間違いじゃない」と言い聞かせること。そうすることで、自分を受け入れる力が徐々に育ちました。 自己肯定感は人から与えられるものではなく、自分で育むしかありません。日々の小さな成功や努力に注目して、できたことを褒める習慣を持つと、前向きな変化を実感しやすくなります。 過去は変えられませんが、未来は自分の選択で築けます。私も過去のトラウマに囚われるのではなく、新しい経験や学びに目を向けることで、少しずつ心が自由になっていきました。 最後に、癒しは内側から始まります。自分を愛し、大切にする時間を意識的に作ること。私の場合は、日記を書いたり、好きなことに没頭したりすることで心の回復が加速しました。 毒親育ちに気づいたときの戸惑いや痛みは大きいですが、あなたは一人じゃありません。これらの言葉が、あなたの苦しい気持ちに寄り添い、少しでも前向きな一歩を踏み出す助けになれば幸いです。

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