My Hell Experience With My MIL 🔥 (Part 1)

People say pregnancy is supposed to be a happy, protected phase.

For me, it was when all the red flags became impossible to ignore.❌

1) Setting up the baby cot — only when I’m in labour?

They insisted on setting up my baby’s cot only when I’m already in the hospital delivering.

Honestly, it sounded like a joke. ( MIL + FIL )

They’re extremely traditional, yet somehow thought it was acceptable to leave basic baby preparations until the last minute. I repeatedly asked them to come over earlier so I could:

• make sure it was safe

• understand how it worked

• feel prepared as a first-time mother

Instead, they brushed it off. Apparently, my comfort, preparation, and peace of mind didn’t matter. But I push through after nagging my husband for what feels like 1000 times.

2) “Wait for help” — but no one actually helps

When I was pregnant and staying at my husband’s family home, my MIL didn’t cook.

She openly said she doesn’t know how.

It was close to lunchtime. No one asked if I was hungry. No food was prepared.

So I did what any independent, hungry pregnant woman would do — I went out, bought takeaway for myself and for them, and came back.

Instead of appreciation, I got reprimanded.

I was told that as a pregnant woman, I should wait and ask for help.

Wait for what?

Wait for hunger?

Wait for someone who clearly wasn’t going to step up?

It is the same for all meals, breakfast lunch dinner.

3) Unclean home, no basic comfort, zero awareness

My MIL doesn’t work, yet:

• the house isn’t clean

• basic chores aren’t done

• dust builds up so badly I developed skin rashes

There wasn’t even proper air-conditioning fixed.

I was pregnant, carrying a child, constantly uncomfortable — and no one thought the environment mattered.

It felt careless. Neglectful. Almost like my well-being and my baby’s health were an afterthought.

4) Meddling, money talk, and constant contradictions

She constantly meddled in our marriage and finances.

She knew her son wasn’t financially well-off, yet she repeatedly questioned us:

“How are you going to afford housing?”

“How will you manage money?”

All this while:

• offering zero financial help

• saying these things while I was pregnant — a time when I should’ve been calm and supported

I finally snapped and told her clearly: We will be fine.

What annoyed me most was the hypocrisy.

She doesn’t cook, but constantly asks my husband:

“Want to order Grab?”

“Want to order food?”

So you worry about his finances, but casually encourage unnecessary spending?

Small amounts add up.

And the emotional burden added up even faster.

#motherinlaws #motherinlawproblems #motherinlaw #MIL #familyproblems

** I insisted that I moved home where I get proper care **