How do I respond 🥹
Mother’s Day is coming up and I work in retail. Last year on Mother’s Day I cried so hard because I didn’t know how to answer the “are you a mother?” Question. I had a miscarriage but I do still consider myself a mom even tho my babies didn’t make it. I’m really just tempted to call off so I don’t have to deal with it but I know nobody will be able to cover my shift (all of my coworkers are mothers).. I remember last year a lady asked me I told her yes and she was asking questions and I had to tell her like “my baby passed away” and she felt so bad she gave me flowers. So if I say no to I’m not a mom I feel like I’m lying and I want to cry and if I say yes they might ask me questions and imma cry so I don’t know what to do !
Mother's Day can bring about a mix of emotions for those navigating loss. It's important to acknowledge your feelings and understand that it's okay to consider yourself a mother, regardless of your circumstances. Many people experience similar sentiments during this time. If approached with the question, 'Are you a mother?' here are some suggestions on how to handle it. You can choose to share your story or simply express your feelings without going into details if you're not comfortable. Practicing responses in advance may help you feel more prepared and less anxious. Additionally, consider the potential benefits of talking to a therapist or joining support groups where experiences are shared. Someone, who understands your situation, can provide you with comfort on this difficult day. Keep in mind that whatever choice you make is valid – whether it's taking the day off to focus on self-care or facing your workplace challenges head-on. The key is to prioritize your mental health and well-being as you honor your journey through motherhood.
You are a mom. Try not to let difficult questions get to you. Answer that you are a mom to a beautiful angel baby and hope to one day have a rainbow baby. I myself have three living adult rainbow babies and two angel babies.