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I will not apologize for my audhd

I release myself from apologizing for my disability in my own workspace. If someone works in my company on my project for my creativity, it is their responsibility to fill in where i am deficient.

It is their responsibility to refuse that work if they are unable to do it.

Thats literally the only reason for me to have someone around. Commission, retainer, it doesn’t matter.

If you’re not going to make my disabled reality better for me, why are you here? To make ME feel bad? lol pls be 4real

2025/9/5 Edited to

Living with AUDHD (Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD) means navigating a unique set of challenges and strengths, especially in creative and professional environments. It's empowering to acknowledge that one's disabled reality is valid and not something to apologize for. When working collaboratively, it's crucial that team members recognize their role in supporting areas where the individual might face difficulties, rather than expecting them to conform to traditional expectations without accommodations. In creative projects, understanding and flexibility from collaborators foster an inclusive and productive workspace. If a team member feels unable to support or adapt to these needs, it's more beneficial for both parties to openly communicate and allow for a better fit elsewhere rather than compromising the creator's authentic process. This mindset encourages a culture of respect and acknowledgement, ensuring that people with disabilities like AUDHD can thrive without feeling pressured to mask or apologize for their experiences. Ultimately, building a workspace that respects and enhances the disabled reality leads to better creativity, mental well-being, and workplace harmony. It’s not about burdening others but about creating an environment where everyone’s contributions and challenges are valued.

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