Nanny Dilemma: Did I Do the Wrong Thing?

Am I in the wrong?

I’ve been nannying for a family for the past year, and I usually take side jobs when I’m not scheduled because I’m paid hourly. Recently, the kids were sick, and the mom didn’t confirm whether I was going to work for the rest of the week. Another family offered me a job, so I decided to take it since I would otherwise lose out on the money

I nanny three boys under 10 and am paid hourly. I went in Monday and Tuesday morning, but after that, the mom didn’t confirm my schedule for the rest of the week. Normally, I’m flexible, but I couldn’t wait around for four days and miss most of my hours, so I took another job.

I’ve gone in even when I was sick or the day after oral surgery, and I always let her know at least a week in advance if I won’t be available, helping her plan ahead—I’ve never canceled last minute.

#NannyLife #ChildcareConfessions #HourlyWork #BoundariesMatter #WorkingNanny #ParentingDilemma #TrustYourGut

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2025/11/20 Edited to

... Read moreWorking as a nanny, especially when paid hourly, can present unique challenges in balancing reliability, financial stability, and professional boundaries. In situations like this, where the primary family is uncertain about the nanny's schedule due to their children's illness, it’s essential to recognize the impact on the nanny’s income and availability. Many nannies, like in this case, take side jobs to compensate for lost hours, which is a practical solution when schedules are not confirmed. Clear communication between the nanny and the family is fundamental. Ideally, families should inform their nanny promptly about any changes, enabling the nanny to plan accordingly and accept or decline additional work without stress. This story also highlights the dedication of the nanny, who has consistently shown flexibility, even working through personal health challenges and providing advanced notice for absences. Such professionalism speaks volumes about a nanny’s commitment and trustworthiness. Setting boundaries is crucial in any caregiving role. While it is commendable to be flexible, waiting for confirmation for days can lead to missed opportunities and financial strain. Taking a secondary job during this uncertain period is a responsible choice to ensure income stability. For families relying on hourly nannies, it’s worth considering more structured communication methods, such as weekly schedules or timely updates, especially during unpredictable times like a child’s illness. This helps nurture mutual respect and trust while supporting the nanny’s livelihood. Ultimately, nannies deserve fair treatment and clear communication. Taking care of one’s financial needs without jeopardizing primary job commitments is not wrong. Balancing multiple childcare roles requires transparency, respect, and professional boundaries, all critical to a healthy working relationship between nanny and family.

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You didn’t ask the mom yourself??? Communication is a two-way street.

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