If you haven't talked to these 40 items, don't have children with this girlfriend!🚫

This post is based on the experiences of those around us. Before having a child, we may think that just loving each other is enough, but when you really think that having a child is more delicate than you think, because it is no longer just about two people, but taking responsibility for another life together.

40 Questions to Talk About Clear Before Having a Baby

Subject 1: Readiness

1. Do we really want to have both children?

2. If one is not ready, what should I do?

3. How many children do you want and at what age do you want?

4. If you have difficult children or cannot have children, how will we deal?

5. How much can we change our lifestyle to raise children?

Subject 2: Finance

6. Do we have enough savings for having children?

7. How will your expenses be divided?

8. If a person has to stop raising a child, what?

9. Do we have any debt to clear before having children?

10. If there is an emergency and not enough money, what can we do?

Subject 3: Division of duties

11. Who will take care of the baby?

12. How can housework and parenting be divided?

13. If you sing in the middle of the night, who will wake up?

14. If you're sick, who's taking care of you?

15. Without someone to raise a child, how will we deal with it?

Story 4: How to raise a child

16. Are we okay with hitting the ball or what kind of punishment?

17. If you are stubborn or disobedient, how will we cope?

18. Do we want to raise children rigorously or freely?

19. How can we teach our children about money and responsibility?

20. If your children have special needs, how ready are we to take care of them?

Story 5: Families on both sides

21. How many grandparents do we have to help raise children?

22. If the family interferes, how will we deal?

23. If our parents do not agree about raising children, what will we do?

24. If one family does not like how to raise our children, how to cope?

25. How can we lay down the boundaries of raising children with relatives?

Story 6: Our relationship

26. If after having children, we have almost no time for each other. What to do?

27. If fatigue makes us quarrel more often, how to cope?

28. If a person feels alone carrying the burden, how to talk?

29. How can we still make time as a couple?

30. If a relationship worsens after having a child, how do we solve it?

Subject 7: Health and pregnancy

31. Are we ready to take risks and changes during pregnancy?

32. If a mother has complications during pregnancy, how will we cope?

33. If a child is born unhealthy, how ready are we to take care and heal?

34. How do we plan for antenatal birth and medical expenses?

35. If a mother has depression or poor mental health after birth, how can we help?

Story 8: The Future of the Child

36. What kind of school do we want your children to attend, and how do we prepare for tuition?

37. If you have a dream that does not match our expectations, can we accept it?

38. How can we teach our children love, sex, and safety?

39. If one day you grow up and have a different idea than us, can we listen to you?

40. If our relationship cannot continue one day, how can we share responsibility for our children?

Finally, in the hands-on experience of those around us, we want to tell everyone not to think about having children and everything will improve, or just love each other and raise children, because love is just the beginning, but what it takes is responsibility, understanding and being a team.

If you haven't really talked about it yet, don't rush to have a baby. Let's talk clearly, because having a baby is more delicate than you really think. 🤍

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