Advice I’d give my 18 year old self.
My birthday is next month and some major life changes are happening soon! I think this is a good time to reflect on the first half of my 20’s! 🤗
If I knew then at 18 what I know now I would say this:
🍄1. Having a good group of people around you is so very important and even more important as you get older. They will support and also hold you accountable when needed.
🍄2. Say “No” more and set your boundaries. You’ll waste less of your time with that.
🍄3. Other’s opinions on who you are and what you do are not important. It will only cause stress. the more you worry about what others think the more you become distracted.
🍄4. Speak up and ask for what you need. This included knowing when to ask for help.
🍄5. Don’t be shy to talk about 🤑money. It’s not that you’re bad with money, it’s that you need to learn about it and how to properly utilize it.
🍄6. When you’re overwhelmed take a step back and breathe. Things are more clear when you compartmentalize what is in front of you.
🍄7. Men & romantic relationships will always be there. Work more on loving yourself and knowing who you are and about the things you like. The more you know yourself the better “dating” gets.
🍄8. Allow yourself to feel all feelings when experiencing things. Things will not always be okay, but if you allow yourself to feel the good, bad and the in between feelings there so many life lessons that come out of those moments. 😅
🍄9. Therapy isn’t as bad as you thought it was! It’s actually one of the more significant things to utilize in your “personal growth toolbox”.
🍄10. Buy clothing that will last 10+ years and made of good material. It allows you to be responsible in so many ways. Financially & emotionally you hoard less things this way. You will value things more and be intentional about your spending.
🍄11. Your body will change over time it’s normal. Stretch marks, increased body fat and the ability to do things you use to be able to is normal. You don’t “lose value” because of those things.
🍄12. Wear clothes that compliments your body structure. Do not let the clothes wear you. Your body dysmorphia is lying to you.
🍄13. Get your clothes tailored.
🍄14. Making memories are always worth it vs. putting work first. It’s okay to be career driven but just keep in mind you still have to occasionally enjoy each stage of your life.
🍄15. Learn about what it means to be a good supportive friend. It’s okay to support others and fill their cup at times too.
🍄16. Learn more about sexual responsibility.
🍄17. Start saving and investing your money from now. You’ll be able to do things like gain interests and retire early.
🍄18. Travel as much as you can. Most of your best friends you will meet on those adventures.
🍄19. Chase your dreams. It’s worth it. As long as you write out a plan and know every step you have to take your dream becomes a tangible goal to reach.
🍄20. Just because you know someone for years does not mean you have to stay. This goes for any situation you’re in. As you get older we outgrow relationships this also includes family & friends.
🍄21. Speak to your parents, grandparents and elders more. You’ll learn so much from them and realize some of the things you’re experiencing is a cycle.
🍄22. It takes time to become the woman you’d like to become. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Set one goal each year that you think will set you on the right path and stick to it.
🍄23. You don’t know everything. Do not be afraid of new perspectives introduced by others. Always be open to learning new things.
🍄24. Be aware of the people you let around you. It’s okay to lead with your heart but have discernment. When people show you who they are the first time believe them.
🍄25. Lastly, don’t be afraid to start over. In our life we all have seasons. You’re able to pursue anything you desire. Do not be afraid of going after what you want even if that means you have to sacrifice things you love or really care about.
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Stepping into the 18-25 age range feels like a massive leap, doesn't it? One minute you're counting down to adulthood, the next you're suddenly expected to have all the answers. Looking back from my current 25yrs, I often think about the person I was at 18yrs and what truly shaped me during those formative years. If I knew then what I know now, I'd definitely tell myself a few more things that were pivotal in navigating that exciting yet often overwhelming time. Beyond setting boundaries and learning to say no, which is incredibly powerful, really dig deep into understanding your own values. The pressure to conform, whether to peer groups or societal expectations, is immense between 18 and 25. But this is your time for self-discovery. Try new hobbies, travel even if it's just to a neighboring town, take that weird elective, or volunteer for a cause you care about. These experiences, even the awkward ones, are how you truly figure out what lights you up and what you stand for. Don't be afraid to change your mind about career paths, friendships, or even your personal style multiple times – it's all part of the process of becoming authentically you. Financial literacy is a big one that often gets overlooked. While the initial advice to save and invest is spot on, dive deeper into understanding credit scores, student loans (if applicable), and even basic tax preparation. These might seem daunting, but demystifying them early can save you so much stress later. Start with a simple budget, track your spending for a month, and you'll be amazed at how much control you gain over your money. Remember, it's not about deprivation, but about intentionality, allowing you to fund those dreams and travels mentioned in the original advice. Another crucial aspect for this age group is building a supportive network. The original article touches on good friends, but also consider mentors and professional connections. As you transition from schooling to careers, these relationships can open doors and provide invaluable guidance. Don't just network when you need something; cultivate genuine connections. Offer help, share insights, and be a reliable presence. These relationships will be a cornerstone of your personal and professional growth for years to come. This period from 18 to 25 is truly a unique chapter for growth, mistakes, and incredible learning. Embrace every moment, because as I can tell you from my 25yrs perspective, it flies by!
all of these are so spot on!! yesss! 🔥🔥