Admitting to myself “I’m burned out”

I remember in 2018 I received a cheque for $100,000.

I was a FA 3rd year in the business and it was my best year yet. But I looked at the piece of paper and didn’t feel ANYTHING - no pride no joy no satisfaction

I just kept asking myself “am I broken? Is it me? What’s wrong with me?”

My mum is an FA- has been for 20+ years and still is. She loves her job and it gives her so much joy but for me it just drained me so much even though I loved making an impact in my clients’ lives.

It took me 6 months to admit to myself that I was burned out cos I kept feeling guilty towards my clients. “They trusted me so I need to stay on and fight for them”

I couldn’t share any of this with my colleagues because they all felt that being an FA was the best job in the world.

Then I won a writing competition with Seek Sophie out of nowhere and I got sponsored to go to Sri Lanka for a month. For that whole month I experienced a side of me I never knew was even there. That trip changed me.

I came back, quit my job and started a healing process from burnout. Another year later, got divorced, left SG to eat pray love and continued the journey towards understanding myself and figuring out what I want life to mean and be like.

Self development is not selfish. Because I learned how to fill my own cup, now my relationships are stronger. I healed my mother wound, and am also building my dream academy teaching others how to live authentic and aligned lives. To create out of a state of BEING not DOING.

If you resonate, I see you :) follow me on ig for more (janethegenerator)

4/18 Edited to

... Read moreBurnout is more than just feeling tired; it’s a complex emotional and physical state that can hit anyone, no matter how successful they appear on the outside. From my own experience, I’ve learned that acknowledging burnout is often the hardest step. Much like the author’s initial struggle to admit feeling burned out despite professional achievements, I found myself trapped in a cycle of denial and guilt. There’s this common misconception that if you’re successful, you should feel proud and motivated, but burnout can mask itself beneath tangible accomplishments, leaving you feeling empty and disconnected. One key lesson I took from these stories is the importance of self-compassion. It’s natural to feel guilty, especially when you care deeply about your work or the people you serve. However, continuing to push yourself without addressing these feelings can lead to serious mental and emotional exhaustion. The author’s realization that self-development is not selfish resonates deeply — filling your own cup allows you to show up more fully in your relationships and work. Travel and stepping outside your usual environment can also be profoundly healing. Just like the transformative month in Sri Lanka that sparked new self-awareness for the author, I found that breaking routine and exposing myself to new experiences helped me reconnect with my inner joy and creativity. These moments can serve as a wake-up call, encouraging us to reevaluate what truly matters and inspiring new paths forward. Lastly, sharing your journey, whether with close friends or through a community, is crucial. Burnout can feel incredibly isolating when others seem to thrive in similar roles, but vulnerability can create powerful connections. Whether it's joining support groups or simply opening up to trusted peers, you pave the way for mutual understanding and healing. If you’re facing burnout, remember it’s not a personal failure but a signal your mind and body need care. Taking time to rest, reflect, and realign with your authentic self lays the foundation for renewed energy and a more meaningful, balanced life.

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