Lessons in love. Leave only "debt" and "fear."

Hello, my friends, Lemon8 🍋 today would like to share the worst love experience of my life as an illustration to everyone. This happened when our lives reached a pivotal turning point.

At that time, we were close to 30 years old. It was the perfect age of life. There was a house 🏠, a car 🚗, a stable job. After deciding to move back to work in our hometown, the only goal in my heart was "wanting to have serious love." Bored with dating, breaking up, frustrated like a teenager. I wanted to see the last thoughtful partner who would really build a future together.

And like Destiny works. ✨ We try to play the dating app and find a profile of a man who sees and immediately "clicks." His profile picture is a picture of a graduation uniform at the same university as us! 🎓 When talking, it's even more impressive. He just finished the P.D. and said that he's going to go to the P.D. Looks like a knowledgeable person. Good idea. Fun talking. Reliable.

But what made us "embarrassed" and threw a hundred hearts on us was that he almost immediately took us to our parents home. His family welcomed us very well. Everything seemed so serious that we thought, "The universe has already allocated this person." ✅

Who would have thought that behind this perfect scene is a big drama that hides the shocking truth?..And we are the ones who have to pay for this lesson with long-cherished tears, debts and fears.

Let me tell you. At first, the assistant manager was in a job status. Mainly, at home, playing games, at night, traveling to the pub. He said that he was stressed a lot. He asked for a break. (At first, told to leave the job, to enter the Primary. Later, told not to continue, looking for a job)

All the time they've been together, there are alarms all the way around, but with nothing, our stupidity, his trust, or his consistent performances, we overlook the day everything breaks out at the same time...

1. 📱 Shock in the middle of the restaurant: When the line bounced up to be "old working friend us."

That day was the day he took the manager to his new office (he got a job after months of help, if not on the line, he didn't do it). We and his parents went together. On the way we stopped to eat, when he walked to the bathroom, he put his phone at the table, which we usually never mess with, but then the line bounced up...The name that appears on the screen is "The Name of Our Friend" who used to work together!

With suspicion, we secretly opened it and the picture was a clear conversation. Importantly, this friend already has a girlfriend! Not reading much, he walked back.

Us: "Who is this person?"

Him: (Serious face) "Oh, seniors at university."

Us: "No, this is our friend. We remember."

Him: (immediately raised voice) "No! You remember the wrong person! Why are you sneaking on our phone!?"

He immediately became angry and took back his phone. At that time we were stunned and stopped talking, but being considerate of his parents sitting there, he had to keep quiet and keep his doubts alone.

2. 📞 really had a story before that: when the "boyfriend of the juniors" called to sue.

Shortly before that, we took him to a party with the kids at the department. The next day, a strange number called and appeared to be the girlfriend of one of our sisters. He called to say in a disgruntled voice, "Brother, why is your girlfriend flirting with my girlfriend?"

When we asked him about this, he made a naive face and said, "That younger man is good. He came to flirt with us. We didn't care at all," as we had recently known the younger man, but had been with him for a while...So we chose to "believe him" and look at him negatively for a while, not knowing that we had misjudged one good person.

3. 🤰🏻 the ultimate shock is driving: When a woman calls to say "pregnant"

This happened in the car the same day we saw our friend LINE! While driving him with his parents, a woman suddenly called in, opened the speaker, and the end of the line said a sentence that silenced the whole car...

"Are you with your parents? Tell me you can't come home and say you're pregnant now. You want to take responsibility!"

Everyone in the car was a junior student in the group who often invited us to drink, which we used to go with often. When he hung up, he confessed to missing out on drunkenness, but the sentence that hurt us the most was that he turned to blame us, "It's because you don't have anything to do with us, so we have to go with someone else!"

Incredible?..At that time, we were shocked, sorry, but still stupid, still agreeing to continue our relationship and even talking to his mother about helping our grandchildren. That's where love really blinded us.

After several peak encounters, we still wouldn't wake up until.....

🤯 The breaking point that caused everything to collapse:

After the pregnancy incident, he went to work in another province, and we still had a call every evening, but the relationship was not the same. His mother also told us, "I will bring a pregnant woman home, because I can save the dormitory and take care of my grandchildren." We only acknowledged that at that time, I just thought that...Probably the best way.

Until one day when he said he was coming home, we asked, "Where are you going to sleep?" He said, "Stay in the hotel," and the name of the hotel. That day we made an appointment to eat, drink until late, and he said he was tired and would go back to the hotel.

With a little drunkenness and some longstanding suspicions, we unknowingly drove to the hotel he said, but...Didn't find his car parked at all!

That second, our hearts began to fall. Some force inspired us to keep driving to "his house."

And the picture you see is..His car is really parked in front of the house (our house often comes to know which way to get in and out)

We parked, extinguished the engine, and walked slowly into the house, beating our hearts almost out of our chest...

He and that girl...Hugging each other on the couch in front of the TV! 💔

Everything collapsed that second, the pictures he used to create, all the lies today...It was so clear that it hurt the whole body.

We could no longer keep our sobs alive, and he woke up with an extreme expression of shock, and the first sentence he uttered was, "Don't be loud! People will be shocked!" He brought us out of the house and was followed by a series of insults we had never heard before. He threatened to report the charge of "trespassing" if we didn't leave his house...

That was the day his mask ended, and it was the end of a six-month relationship that started with good intentions but ended with the most pain of his life.

. When we open our eyes..Everything is revealed.

1. Truth from an old colleague 💬

We decided to greet the female friend who saw in his line. In summary, our friend is really his "gig"! They both met at the pub and secretly talked to each other all the time, but our friend never knew that this man was our girlfriend.

2. The truth from the younger working 😥

Still not shocked enough. We talked to the younger brother at the department to know that he secretly greeted to flirt with 2 younger people! Without you dare tell us because of being considerate, we can only apologize to the younger people who misunderstood them. It was relieved to clear everything, but hurt to be tricked redundantly.

3. The most shocking "money" truth. 💳💸

All the time we were together, we fully supported him because he said "wait for work," but the truth is...

Our credit card. He used it to swipe comfortably.

The new mobile phone used to talk to our friends is our money.

Every trip we travel together, we pay all (they say pay before they return) when we break up.

So we talked about it with his mother, and he even cried and apologized, confessing that his son had a problem with money and hoping that dating us would improve him...Also said to the end that in summary, I didn't take my child (confused with this word)

4. Authentic after termination 💔

When we broke up and cleared everything, he didn't end it. There was a drunk and then invaded to insult us to the dormitory, threatening to assault us to sue his mother, causing him damage. Fortunately, he only came once and had to go back to work in the province.

✨ Lessons from this love

Well, debt, we had to pay our credit card debt alone and decided to move away from work for the safety of ourselves and his family, because the day he got drunk at the dormitory still remembered. Fortunately, the door was closed and did not go out to face, so he passed.

This story teaches us that

Love and Sincerity, It Takes the Right People: Being Dedicated to the Wrong, It's an Unforgiving Waste of Life and Pain

Don't ignore the alarm: A small anomaly we overlooked could be the tip of an iceberg waiting to collapse.

If meeting a bad person, "none" is safer: Being alone is not as scary as having someone hurt us physically and mentally.

Love that never makes us regret is "self-love": this is the most true. Be very good to yourself. Take care of your heart as best.

Even now, we will still be single, but not closed. Still hope to find good and sincere love, but if not found...It's okay, because now we love ourselves. ❤️

Thank you to everyone who finished reading.

I hope our story is helpful to friends. Anyone who has had a similar experience can share it.

# Love, relationships # Love experience # Break up with boyfriend # Love # Alarm