YALL IM FINALLY ADMITING IT. I HAVE A SHOPPING ADDICTION.
LIKE ITS NOT A “oh i just keep spending money on clothes” TYPE OF ADDICTION. ITS A “my only reason to live is to wait for this package to get here and once it’s here my happiness is going to go away until i have money to order again” LIKE ITS HORRIBLE.
i’ve talked to my therapist about this because it’s a genuine problem and he says it’s my way of looking forward to the future and not get caught up in the present. Just in case anyone wanted to know that:)
... Read moreIt's so real, isn't it? That feeling of being utterly hooked on the next purchase. Reading about how social media fuels this 'look' and constant desire for new things really resonated with me. I've found myself scrolling through countless feeds, seeing perfect aesthetics and 'must-have' items, and suddenly, my cart is full, and I'm chasing that fleeting high of a new package arriving. It's not just the stuff itself; it's the anticipation – that moment when you get the shipping notification and you know a fresh cardboard box or those exciting black plastic bags are on their way. That temporary thrill is powerful.
I often wonder if that 'I HAVE A PROBLEM' feeling, seeing my car filled with those shopping packages, is partly because of the constant exposure to aspirational lifestyles online. Influencers showcasing their latest 'hauls,' perfectly curated flat lays, and sponsored posts create an almost irresistible urge to acquire. It's easy to fall into the trap of believing that if I just buy that item, I'll achieve that same level of happiness or style. The dopamine hit from clicking 'order' or unwrapping a new item can be so strong, but then, just like the author experienced, the happiness often fades, leaving you craving the next fix. It becomes a cycle where the joy isn't in the item, but in the chase and the brief moment of acquisition.
My therapist once mentioned how I use shopping as a way to look forward to the future, and I think social media amplifies this. It constantly presents us with future possibilities – 'new arrivals,' 'next season's trends,' 'what everyone will be wearing.' It's a brilliant, yet dangerous, marketing strategy. For anyone else feeling this intense pull, I've been trying a few things. First, consciously limiting my screen time on apps that trigger impulse buying. I try to unfollow accounts that make me feel inadequate or constantly tempt me. Instead of endless scrolling, I try to engage with content that serves a purpose beyond shopping, like learning a new skill or connecting with friends.
Second, I'm trying to identify the underlying emotions. Am I bored? Stressed? Lonely? Often, the urge to buy is a distraction from something deeper. Acknowledging that feeling before reaching for my phone helps me choose a healthier coping mechanism – a walk, a chat with a friend, or even just journaling. I've also found setting clear spending limits and unsubscribing from promotional emails to be incredibly helpful. It's about reducing the temptations. And lastly, focusing on saving for larger, more meaningful experiences instead of countless small purchases that just end up as more shopping packages in the back seat. It's a journey, and honestly, sometimes I just need to scream 'HELP!' like that image, but knowing others feel it too makes it a little less daunting. We're all in this together, trying to break free from being 'hooked on the look' and find more sustainable sources of joy.