“Why do men with the smallest 🍆 always seem to have the most kids??” 😂

That’s the exact kind of unfiltered, hilarious, feedback-needed conversations I started back in 2009 — before we even had a name for it.

Long before “content creator” was even a title, I was making people laugh, think, and talk online. I just didn’t know it would eventually become a whole brand. Now, I call it JASTINATIONS — my creative world where real talk, healing, culture, and comedy collide.

On this episode of The Toya Moment Podcast, we talked about everything — from sneaky links and Walmart lingerie to how Black women need spaces where we can be completely ourselves. Vulnerable, hilarious, reflective, and very much over it all at the same time. ✨

So if you’ve ever needed a laugh, a sister-circle moment, or just a reminder that you’re not the only one who has questions about life, love, and questionable men — this one’s for you.

🎥 Full episode is now live! Click the link in my bio to watch on YouTube or listen on Apple Podcasts.

Trust me, you’ll be glad you pulled up. 💬👑

2025/9/11 Edited to

... Read moreStarting from 2009, the creator behind JASTINATIONS has been building a unique space where humor, culture, and authentic conversations intersect, long before 'content creator' became a recognized title. This journey highlights how digital platforms can foster communities where vulnerability and comedy coexist, especially for Black women seeking genuine spaces to express themselves. One of the memorable themes often explored in this creative world includes topics like the humorous question, "Why do men with the smallest 🍆 always seem to have the most kids?" This kind of candid and lighthearted inquiry sparks laughter but also invites deeper discussion around relationships and social dynamics. The Toya Moment Podcast episode featuring JASTINATIONS touches on a variety of subjects such as sneaky links and even Walmart lingerie, demonstrating the range and unapologetic honesty embraced by the host. These conversations not only entertain but also validate shared experiences, fostering a sister-circle atmosphere that many listeners find refreshing and comforting. Moreover, the evolution of JASTINATIONS from early Facebook engagements to a broader influencer platform illustrates the power of consistency and authenticity in content creation. During challenging times like the pandemic, this space provided much-needed relief and connection, encouraging listeners to feel seen, understood, and not alone. Engaging with content that balances humor with real talk allows audiences to reflect on personal experiences with a lighthearted touch. It also highlights the importance of creating and nurturing safe spaces for Black women and other marginalized groups to discuss life openly. This podcast episode is a testament to how storytelling can heal, unite, and entertain simultaneously. For anyone seeking laughter, thoughtful reflections, or a welcoming community that embraces the complexities of love and life, this episode of The Toya Moment Podcast with JASTINATIONS is a must-watch or listen. It reminds us all that sometimes, not taking things too seriously opens the door to deeper human connection and understanding.

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