From my personal experience, the topic of seeking parental approval before proposing can be quite complex. While tradition often encourages asking for the father's blessing, especially if he is protective or authoritative, it’s important to remember that relationships are between adults who should make their own choices. Sometimes, waiting for permission or approval can delay genuine expressions of commitment. In many cases, especially when the father is not likely to approve due to financial or other reasons—as suggested in the OCR text about the father not being 'rich as fuck' or not able to 'fight'—it might be more empowering to show confidence by directly proposing to your partner. This doesn't mean disregarding respect for family, but instead prioritizing the strength and maturity of your relationship. I recall a friend who bypassed the traditional ritual and simply proposed because he felt confident in their love and future together. While it caused some initial tension, ultimately, it strengthened their bond as they defined their relationship on their own terms. It’s crucial to communicate openly with your partner about these expectations and understand what matters most to both of you. In conclusion, the decision to ask for a blessing should be based on your unique circumstances and values, rather than societal pressure. Being a grown man means taking responsibility for your choices, including how and when you propose marriage. Asking yourself what will truly honor your relationship is the best guide.