Controversial things I want to do for my child
1. Holiday baskets for Valentine’s Day, Easter, Halloween, and Christmas.
2.Shower them with gifts on their special days
3.reward accomplishments
4. No spending the night off(other than my brothers) until they are at least 12/13(old enough to know boundaries and when to alert an adult)
5. They will not have to see any family they do not enjoy being around.
6. I WILL NOT react in front of my child to any of their wrong doings. I will correct them how I see fit in privacy.(me punishing my child is not a show for the public and I would NEVER humiliate my child to prove a point.)
7. I will not force my child to finish their food if they are full.(offer other options if they do not enjoy the meal, their taste buds are different from ours.)
8. My child will be clean and presentable no matter where we are going.(it is good to teach them this so they are prepared when school starts and you won’t be rushing them to get ready)
9 MY child will have a routine that we will follow through and through if your child is staying at my house they will follow the same routine as well.
10. My child does not share a bed with their friends or family.(Their bed is THEIR space and THEY choose if they would like to share it or not.)
11. My child will be allowed 2 days out of year to miss school just because they don’t want to go. (I remember the feeling of being over whelmed with school and just needing a day to decompress.)
12. If my child calls me to pick them up day or night I will be picking them up.
13. Money is NOT my child’s problem nor will I EVER discuss it with or around my child.
14. They will have their own money for their own wants starting at age 3. (This will help them manage it better through out the years)
15. My child will not be REQUIRED to get a job until they are 16+ if they don’t want to that is fine.
16. I will BUY my child’s first vehicle it won’t be brand new but they will pick it out and find something they love.
17. I will ALWAYS encourage hobby’s and new interests even if they are dead ends at least they tried it and learned it.
Parenting styles vary widely, and the choices highlighted in this article reflect thoughtful, intentional decisions to raise a child with respect and freedom balanced with structure. For example, giving children holiday baskets and gifts on special days fosters joy and family bonding, but ensuring gifts aren’t the sole focus helps maintain healthy values. Rewarding accomplishments encourages motivation, while setting clear boundaries around sleepovers ensures safety and trust, respecting age-appropriate social interactions. Allowing children to avoid unwanted family visits teaches the importance of healthy relationships and personal boundaries, which is crucial for emotional well-being. Correcting behavior privately rather than publicly reflects a parenting philosophy based on respect and protecting children’s dignity, which helps build trust and understanding. Permitting children to stop eating when full acknowledges their individual needs and promotes a healthy relationship with food, while emphasizing cleanliness and routine prepares them for school and life skills. Respecting a child's personal space, such as their own bed, promotes autonomy and comfort. Additionally, offering occasional mental health days from school shows an awareness of children’s emotional health and the importance of self-care. Immediate parental availability when a child feels uncomfortable, no matter the time, reassures them and strengthens family bonds. Financially, shielding children from money worries and providing their own spending money early helps with early financial literacy and security, without pressure to earn a job before age 16. Providing a first vehicle tailored to their preferences fosters responsibility and independence. Encouraging hobbies, even if they don’t succeed, celebrates curiosity and learning, which builds confidence and resilience. These parenting choices, while possibly controversial to some, emphasize a compassionate, respectful approach aiming to nurture well-rounded, happy children prepared to navigate life.