AITA

a little backstoey for you guys, my mom used to be a cool chill mom and since my grandma and uncle died she has slowly been going off the deep end and very maniuplative, trying to take my daughter away from me and threatening to call cps because of other stuff. (ill get into that here in a moment) my mom has completely went off on me due to the fact im having my second child and i have no help. let me also remind you my mom lives an hour away from me and my husbands mom lives in another state. My husband and i decided i needed a break because me being the stay at home mom wasnt easy for me in this stage of pregnancy. personally me and my mom havent been on the best of terms since i got hit by a car... shes very controlling, manipulative and crazy enough to tell me that shes threatening to take my baby away from me. i have struggled with my mental health since my dad passed away when i was 11 years old. im currently 25 yeard old and still deal with the mourning of my dad, grandma and uncle. without the help or support from my only parent left i decided to cut her off. i had an appointment monday or tuesday of last week to go to my obgyn and she went off the rails saying im a terrible mother because i let my daughter go into someone elses life to better my mental health and that when i have this baby my daughter wont be able to see that happen.... like what do you mean, i wouldnt want to traumatize my daughter by seeing me in pain for hours or days on end having her little sister....then my mom said how selfish im being and how im a terrible parent for letting my child be states away from me and how i let his mom aka to my mom a "terrible parent who dont give two shits about her kids". so i needed the break and decided to meet at a halfway point and let her get in some grandma and grandpa time aling with a family i know i can trust. so you tell me, am i the asshole?