The Eldest Child, Not the Second Parent: A Parenting Approach That Doesn't Build Heavy Burdens

When the second little member comes up in the house, we may accidentally expect the eldest child to perform a series of duties that are not actually the child's responsibility.

1. Being a good role model - this is the duty of parents, not eldest children.

2. Younger care - The primary responsibility lies with parents, not brothers.

3. Always sacrifice - you have the right to what you want.

Long-term effects - > These can turn into anxiety disorders. When the eldest child is expected to take responsibility beyond age, they often:

• Grow up faster than age. Think of being young.

• Too much pressure on yourself when you grow up

• At risk of depression

• Always feel like a "pillar of the house" to sacrifice to others.

• Do not refuse when someone asks for help. Feel guilty because it is a duty.

How to create non-pressure sisterhood using the "Teamwork" concept instead of saying, "I'm an elder, I have to take care of you." Try this sentence:

• "My parents and I, should we take care of you?"

• "Let's shower for you. Who wants to do something?"

Respect readiness.

• If asked to help and you are not ready, should not force

• Don't be sad to make you feel guilty if you're not ready.

• Accept that you may have more things to do

Continuing as we keep doing this, you will:

• Help the younger willingly

• Don't feel guilty if you refuse.

• Seeing helping others is a choice, not a compulsory duty.

Something that must always remind ourselves:

• The eldest child is still a child. They need all the care, love and care of the younger. We intend to have many children because they want to have friends, not lonely, not to make the eldest child become the second parent of the younger child.

Friends, what are the ways to help you engage with you without creating a heavy burden? Let's share.

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