My husband’s death made me question reality..

New to Lemon8

Vulnerability

🤍 My Story: love and loss

🤍 How I Felt: numb

🤍 My Takeaways: appreciation @

#booksummary

📚 Title and Author: This Can’t Be Reality, a memoir through love and loss by Jimilyn Smith Kell

🌟 Genre:non fiction

💬 Short Summary: a journey through grief

Key Point #1 :unexplainable tragedy

Key Point #2 :fertility complications

Key Point #3 :loss of son and husband💵 Price:💵 Price: paperback $16/ebook $9.01South Carolina #widow #grief #survivor

2024/9/22 Edited to

... Read moreThe memoir 'This Can't Be Reality' offers an unflinching look at the complexity of grief following the loss of loved ones. Jimilyn Smith Kell’s story captures the often-unspoken feelings that accompany such tragedies, including numbness, heartache, and the struggle for appreciation amidst sorrow. With insights from a personal journey of love and loss, the book addresses tough themes like fertility complications that can emerge during such times. Readers will find relatable experiences that affirm their own feelings and struggles. This work is not just a narrative of pain; it serves as a beacon of hope and resilience for those navigating similar paths. The author encourages open discussion about grief, creating a community for survivors. In addition to the poignant storytelling, the memoir invites readers to reflect on their own experiences with loss and healing, further fostering a supportive dialogue within the community. As the publication date of September 2024 approaches, following @thiscantbereality on Instagram can offer glimpses into the memoir’s development and a chance to connect with others who have faced profound loss. This is an essential read for those seeking understanding or experiencing their own journey through grief.

Related posts

Philosophies that’ll make you question reality
#psychologyfacts #psychology #philosophy #mentalhealth #knowledgs
parallaxee

parallaxee

303 likes

The Sisters
The Sisters The Center of the Web, Outside of Mortal Time The thread between the Kur and the Web’s center pulsed with silver light as Ereshkigal stepped through for the first time. She emerged into a space that was both everywhere and nowhere, a chamber that existed between all realms, woven
Myria

Myria

0 likes

Jenna Ortega poses on the Emmy's red carpet in a unique jeweled top and a black high-slit skirt, showcasing her dark makeup and hair. The image includes a full shot, a close-up of her torso, and a back view of her outfit.
Jenna Ortega stands sideways on the Emmy's red carpet, wearing a striking jeweled top and a long black skirt with a high slit, embodying her signature goth-inspired style for the event.
Jenna Ortega and Catherine Zeta-Jones stand on stage at the Emmy's, holding hands. Jenna wears her bold jeweled top and black skirt, while Catherine is in an elegant black strapless gown.
Jenna Ortega’s Death Becomes Her Moment!
Jenna brought us back to 1992 with this Death Becomes Her that was channeling Isabella Rossellini’s character from the 1992 film Death Becomes Her. This look is very similar but unique in their own way. However, they both look stunning regardless. This look is definitely Jenna the goth look, dar
Belle

Belle

6548 likes

My Death Pile‼️ ⚠️
This is what reselling actually looks like behind the scenes. Just me, my space, and my very real death pile 😅 One day I’ll grow this enough to bring my husband in—that’s the goal 🤍 #resellerlife #deathpile #reallife #smallbusinessowner #workfromhome
Amy Pacheco

Amy Pacheco

3 likes

15 SIGNS A WOMAN IS EMOTIONALLY CHECKED OUT(Reality Check)
She didn’t just wake up and leave… she checked out first. Not loudly Not dramatically But slowly… quietly The effort faded The questions stopped The connection felt different And the scariest part? You could feel it… but couldn’t explain it REALITY CHECK: Women don’t just leave ph
Aisha .T Cleaners & J Advocate

Aisha .T Cleaners & J Advocate

133 likes

14 Reality Checks About Why Your Ex Is Your Ex(Read this before you go back)
Some relationships don’t end because of one mistake… they end because of patterns you kept ignoring. The confusion. The inconsistency. The emotional exhaustion. And deep down… you knew. But sometimes we don’t miss the person — we miss what we thought it could be. 💭 REALITY CHECK
Aisha .T Cleaners & J Advocate

Aisha .T Cleaners & J Advocate

38 likes

John 11:28-37 | Jesus Shares the Sorrow of Death 📖
Yesterday’s & Today’s Bible reading & notes 📖 John 11:28-37 | Jesus Shares the Sorrow of Death ♥️ Today’s Heart Check: Do I bring my pain and emotions honestly to Jesus, or do I try to hide them? #findgod🙏🏼📖 #i love reading my bible #biblenotes #biblestudy #readingthroughmyb
MAE ♡

MAE ♡

81 likes

The Reality of an American Civil War
#prepper #preppers #survival #civilwar
Shahzad kayani

Shahzad kayani

11 likes

Feeling trapped by reality?
Feeling trapped by reality? Most people are not overwhelmed by what is happening in their life. They are overwhelmed by fighting what is already real. The moment you resist reality, you create internal conflict, and that conflict is what drains your energy. You will never win a fight against
Coach Mike

Coach Mike

3 likes

Psychology to Make You Rethink Reality 🧠
Hello Lovelies!!! There are some journal prompts/questions to ask yourself at the end!🩷 #journeywithaly I have a passion for psychology so let me share some with you! “naive reality” : when someone believes the way they perceive reality is how other people do as well. We all have our
✨Aly✨

✨Aly✨

42 likes

A regal woman in dark, ornate attire holds a glowing purple orb with lightning. Text announces "7 PLANETARY ENERGIES YOU NEED TO KNOW" for March 8th - 10th, 2026, by Mystic Min9dz.
A regal woman in dark, ornate attire holds a glowing purple orb above her head. Text explains "WHY THESE 7 PLANETARY ENERGIES MATTER" for March 8th - 10th, 2026, influencing emotional cycles and relationships.
A regal woman in dark, ornate attire holds a glowing purple orb above her head. Text describes these seven planetary forces as cosmic currents guiding humanity's emotional and spiritual climate, encouraging alignment with the universe.
7 Planetary Forces Shaping Our Reality Right Now
⚠️ Cosmic Energy Update: The 7 Planetary Forces Shaping Our Reality Right Now Most people are walking around unaware that seven powerful planetary energies are currently influencing the collective consciousness. These forces are not random. They shape our emotions, relationships, intuition,
Mystic Min9dz

Mystic Min9dz

10 likes

A black and white photo shows Gabriel García Márquez and Mercedes Barcha in a tender embrace. Gabriel, with a mustache, looks towards the viewer, while Mercedes leans her head on his shoulder. The image is overlaid with text describing their enduring love story and Mercedes's pivotal role in his literary success.
In 1941, in the small Colombian town of Sucre, a 14-year-old boy met a 9-year-old girl. Her name was Mercedes Barcha. She was the daughter of a pharmacist. Elegant. Intelligent. Poised beyond her years. The boy's name was Gabriel García Márquez. And he was captivated. They grew up tog
Sheila Blackmon

Sheila Blackmon

9 likes

I divorced my husband … and came out gay 🌈
The reality is I knew I liked women from the time I was 5/6 years old. The issue however is that I grew up with the “shoved down your throat” ideology that women & women relationships were not valid beyond s€xual. Add this with religious trauma from growing up surrounded by jeovah witnesses,
Thatonegirl

Thatonegirl

113 likes

Real question
What are you for work? I’m genuinely trying to understand what jobs or income streams actually work with this kind of schedule. No judgment at all. Your answer could really help me or another parent. #realconversations #nogatekeeping #autismparents #autismmom #reallifeparenting
Shekira Unique

Shekira Unique

4 likes

A yellow limber in a plastic cup is surrounded by four mangoes, with the title 'THE LIMBER Puerto Rico's Frozen Cup of History, Hustle, and the Nazi We Forgot We Honored'.
Two soursop fruits flank a limber in a plastic cup, illustrating the 'SWEETNESS SCIENCE' of limber making, where sugar is adjusted for freezing, a generational knowledge passed down.
Several red limbers in plastic cups are shown, demonstrating the 'DIAMOND' shape formed when flipped, with the cup acting as a reservoir for melting juice.
Limbers & Nazis…WTF????
The Limber: Puerto Rico’s Frozen Cup of History, Hustle, and the Nazi We Forgot We Honored WHAT IS A LIMBER At its most elemental, a limber is water, fruit, sugar, and time. You blend or juice your fruit, sweeten it to taste, pour it into a small translucent plastic cup, and freeze it solid
Raíces

Raíces

10 likes

Question Reality
Healing begins when we start to question reality itself. When we loosen our grip on what we think is real, new truths begin to reveal themselves. @mysticstacey mysticstacey.weebly.com mysticstacey.com #healingjourney #mysticalhealing #higherconsciousness #questionreality #inneraw
Mystic Stacey

Mystic Stacey

1 like

She survived the Jump… but now reality reacts to h
#INURFACE #AnimeCosplay #TheJump #MusicIsTheWeapon #Shorts
INURFACE

INURFACE

1 like

A black and white portrait of Pearl S. Buck, an older woman wearing a hat and necklace. Overlay text reads: 'SHE MADE THE MOST HEARTBREAKING CHOICE A MOTHER CAN MAKE-THEN USED HER PAIN TO CHANGE THE WORLD.'
In 1924, a young American mother in China received the diagnosis that would shatter her world and, years later, fuel one of the most powerful literary careers in American history. Her daughter Carol would never develop normally. She would never speak. Never sit up unaided. Doctors told Pearl Buc
Sheila Blackmon

Sheila Blackmon

22 likes

Shannen Doherty -Facing reality with courage ❤️‍🩹
🌸Shannen Doherty reminded us that talking about illness and death does not mean giving up. It means facing reality with courage. It means using your voice while you can. 💫She spoke openly about living with cancer. She planned. She shared. She chose honesty.❤️ #HonoringLife #EndOfLi
MeaningfulEndCare

MeaningfulEndCare

0 likes

Angela death breach
Time to come to reality, bro I count six seconds, and then your ass belongs to me🔥😈🔥
outcast williams

outcast williams

1 like

Reality of a Reseller!
This is a behind-the-scenes look at my reselling space right now. It’s a lot of inventory, and the truth is about 90% of it was given to me for free. Some items were also picked up from Facebook Marketplace recently, so I’ve built up a ton of lower to mid-range inventory that needs work. Right n
Amy Pacheco

Amy Pacheco

2 likes

Why Your Reality Isn’t Changing
Your mind is basically a movie director… but most people keep casting the same old story 🎬 If you keep assuming you’re the same version of you… life has no reason to change the script. The Law of Assumption is simple: Be it first. Watch it follow. Not fake. Not force. Just decide… and mo
Colorsofkarmaa

Colorsofkarmaa

152 likes

Words Shape Reality
Words Shape Reality This reel demonstrates the dynamics of words. Find me at www.go-under.com #positivity #words #hypnosis #mindset #ffl #fflmodality
Jason Gobeli

Jason Gobeli

1 like

A white textured paper cutout with the title "Books That Made Me Feel Like I Was Losing My Mind" in black text, set against a background of stacked books.
The book cover for "Come Closer" by Sara Gran, featuring a blurred figure and text, accompanied by a description about a woman's life unraveling.
The book cover for "Hidden Pictures" by Jason Rekulak, depicting a dark forest scene, with a description about a nanny job gone weird with creepy drawings.
Books that made me feel like I was losing my mind
Is it gaslighting? Is it psychosis? Or is it just really good storytelling? These books blurred the line between fiction and insanity — and I loved it. #bookrecs #bookrecommendations #booktok #bookish #booktokfyp #books #thrillerbooks
Kay | The Working Mom Bookclub

Kay | The Working Mom Bookclub

38 likes

A person in maroon scrubs and a headband takes a mirror selfie in a bathroom, with text overlayed that reads "REALITY OF BEING A CNA IN YOUR 20's" and colorful abstract lines around them.
A person holds two red energy drink cans, with text overlays stating "You will always be tired no matter how much you sleep" and "Personally I live on energy drinks" against a background of cardboard boxes.
A person in a leopard print top and black scrubs takes a mirror selfie, surrounded by text overlays describing challenging work experiences like aggression, abuse, and poor patient-to-staff ratios, with medical supplies on the counter.
Reality of being a CNA in your 20s
The list could on!!!! #cna #reality
Kilah D

Kilah D

29 likes

A hand holds an open book with text overlays reading "60 pages of Law & Order: SVU horror fanfiction?? WTF?". A Law & Order logo is visible, with red roses and sunflowers in the background.
The image features the book cover for "Her Body and Other Parties" by Carmen Maria Machado, rated 4.25 stars. Text describes it as a bold mix of horror, fantasy, and humor, exploring womanhood's darkness. Red roses and sunflowers are in the background.
An open book displays a quote by Elisabeth Hewer. Text overlays describe the content as "a little gross, very queer, and filled with darkly relatable daily pain," praising a "Law & Order: SVU story." A bouquet of red roses is in the foreground.
and it’s an AMAZING horror book?!?
Carmen Maria Machado is SUCH a great writer, and this short story collection did not let me down. The first story - The Husband Stitch - was my favorite by far. It was a twist on The Green Ribbon and (like many of the following stories) weaves in folklore and urban legends. It addresses the read
Steph 📚💫

Steph 📚💫

326 likes

Reality of a small business
Hey guys, so I am a business owner of AestheticallySpoiledCollections LLC. In my almost 5 years of having a business I must say it was not easy. Nobody tells you that you can feel discouraged, nobody tells you that people you thought was gonna support you doesn’t, nobody tells you that you’re not g
GlorysDiary

GlorysDiary

13 likes

A smiling Black woman and a bald white man pose for a selfie, with text overlaying "MY HUSBAND'S NOT MY TYPE!" and question marks in the background, reflecting the article's theme.
A man, likely Kyle, smiles while holding up a "MILD" sauce packet with "Yes to forever" written on it, in a restaurant setting.
A Black woman in a white wedding dress and a white man in a blue plaid suit share a kiss during their wedding ceremony, with a backdrop of sheer white curtains and string lights.
My husband’s never been my “type”!
My husband, Kyle, wasn’t always the apple of my eye. He didn’t give me butterflies in the beginning. I didn’t fantasize about him like at all. In anyway 🫣 Matter of fact, the only reason I gave him the time of day is he didn’t start our online dating conversation with a creepy question and actua
Tyeasha McGill

Tyeasha McGill

408 likes

A book page from Wuthering Heights showing Heathcliff's anguished monologue after Catherine's death, highlighted with phrases like "haunt me, then!" and "I cannot live without my life! I cannot live without my soul!".
A book page from Wuthering Heights featuring Catherine's explanation of her deep connection to Heathcliff, highlighted with "If all else perished, and he remained, I should still continue to be" and comparing her love for him to eternal rocks.
A book page from Wuthering Heights where Catherine states, "Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same," and expresses that marrying Heathcliff would degrade her, a statement he overhears.
Absolutely Gutwrenching Wuthering Heights Quotes
On the last quotes excerpt from my substack essay: Experience is always mediated: language shapes thought, and the senses mediate our perception of reality, structuring it in its entirety. However, in this passage, Bronte seems to approach the articulation of love's inarticulability. The in
Z.

Z.

7 likes

For my friends questionable reality!
Sometimes a reality check is enough. Share with that friend who is there! #realizations #friendship #fyp #funny #relationship
Basically Us But Funny

Basically Us But Funny

0 likes

Daily Bible Reading 3/25/26
**Daily Mass Readings Explained Simply & Clearly** ⸻ Reading 1 — Isaiah 7 & 8 In this reading, God speaks through the prophet Isaiah to a king named Ahaz. Ahaz is afraid because enemies are threatening his kingdom. God offers him something incredible: “Ask for a sign.”
Bible.Ai98

Bible.Ai98

1 like

Social Media Vs. Reality
✅Social media can make it hard for us to see the true reality of life. For me, I love to travel and sometimes it’s easy to visit a place and realize it’s nothing like a photo I’ve seen. I find it important to show both the good and bad! 📷 My husband is a photographer. Whenever he edits photos h
Abby Webb

Abby Webb

9 likes

The Truth About Death No One Talks About
💫 What if death isn’t a tragedy… but a soul’s perfect timing? Through Dolores Cannon’s work, we’ve learned that every soul comes into this life with a plan… and that includes when they leave. As human beings, we grieve deeply, and that love is real. But from a higher perspective, nothing is rand
Dolores Cannon Official

Dolores Cannon Official

15 likes

Death comes for us all
duet. #poetry #writting
XoBeccaXo

XoBeccaXo

11 likes

Next Question
#kawhileonard #nba #clippers #trending #fyp
RunningThroughReality

RunningThroughReality

0 likes

See more