I took a social media break to mourn…
January has felt like 6 months smashed into one when we’ve only gotten through 4 weeks out of 5. I lost my steam for a bit, honestly. This winter has been a bit hard on me mentally and physically. I found out last Sunday (January 19th) that my Uncle had passed away suddenly. It’s been hard on all of us, honestly. I took a social media break to recoup and be with my family. I wanted to post something for him and let you know I’ll be active again, hopefully at the start of the new month.
We lost my 61-year-old Uncle Bryan on Sunday. I joke that his older brother Larry is my favorite Uncle, but I don’t have a favorite Uncle. My Uncle Bryan was amazing and raised three just as amazing women. Nicole, who came with his marriage to my Aunt Patty, but you couldn't tell him she wasn’t HIS.
Uncle Bryan loved with all his heart. He cared for others more than he put himself first. Bryan was there to give you the shirt off his back and to remind you right from wrong. He loved his church community and shared that love with his wife and daughters. Uncle Bryan was also known for the work he did in his community.
I didn't get to see my Uncle Bryan often, but this is what first comes to mind when I think of him. I’ll also remember how he got on his hands and knees to play and make his grandkids laugh. I’ll remember the winks he gave us cousins when we were being mischievous, almost as if we were sharing a secret. I'll remember how he could get us on the dance floor.
Uncle Bryan’s hugs felt as strong as steel, and you knew he loved you. His words of compassion to help you through hard times would lift you. That is how I want to remember my Uncle Bryan—reminding myself that I was one lucky niece to have Bryan for an Uncle.
Navigating grief can be a profound challenge, especially when faced with the sudden loss of a loved one. My Uncle Bryan's passing has illustrated for me the importance of taking time to grieve and reflect, specifically in the context of engaging with social media. Many individuals experience the pressure to maintain an online presence, even amid personal struggles. During this difficult period, I found solace in stepping back from digital interactions. This intentional break allowed me to focus on family, intimacy, and self-care, nurturing bonds that are often overshadowed by the fast-paced digital world. Engaging with family and sharing memories of Uncle Bryan brought comfort and healing to us all, reminding me of the value of personal connections during times of loss. Uncle Bryan was a man of immense love and generosity, openly sharing his time and support with those around him. His life serves as an example of how we can embrace compassion and connection, even in challenging times. Reflecting on his legacy emphasizes the necessity of prioritizing relationships and self-care in our own lives, particularly when coping with grief. For many, the healing journey can be enhanced by honoring cherished memories—through storytelling or remembrance. As we navigate this emotional terrain, it’s essential to remember that grief is personal. Each individual's process is unique, and finding a supportive environment is key. How we choose to honor our loved ones, be it through memorials, personal reflection, or family gatherings, plays a significant role in the healing journey. In summary, taking a break from social media can offer a crucial opportunity to focus on what truly matters: family, memories, and the profound impact of love shared. As I continue to cope with Uncle Bryan's absence, I carry his kindness and vivacity within me, striving to be a source of comfort and strength for others, as he was.
I missed seeing you on here and have been wondering about you. I am so sorry for your loss. I’m sending you some big hugs and prayers.