Not Exactly Up to My Standards, but Not Terrible

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My first day working at Merle Norman Cosmetics in Sevierville was 9/11/01. Yeah, I started a new job at what most would consider your grandma’s makeup store as the Twin Towers were collapsing. I watched the events of 9/11 on the morning news as I got ready for my new job. I got to work & turned on the radio in the store. I listened to the events happening in New York as I worked. The store was relatively small with a dedicated clientele who were faithful.

I was at the University of Tennessee at the time with classes Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, and subbing so the primary school on Thursdays where my mom taught 1st grade at the time.

I go to Ulta sometimes. Merle Norman has an awesome charcoal scrub, but it isn’t cheap & it doesn’t fit on my priority list.

So last week when I was in #FoodCity in Sevierville. I just grabbed a toner & moisturizer. I had never used the toner brand before, but I figured it would be good since it had the Self Magazine endorsement. The Olay I got for moisturizer does not specifically say moisturizer, but I am happy, or let me say, satisfied with them both.

The moral is the story- don’t buy skin care from a grocery store & don’t buy it in a hurry. I don’t think I even took the time to look either up on the Yuka app until I got home. I don’t remember the score of the Olay, but the rosewater toner score said “poor.”

Do I plan on buying these again? Nope!

#skincare #toner #moisturizer

2024/7/10 Edited to

... Read moreNavigating the world of skin care can be overwhelming, especially with so many products available in grocery stores. It's easy to be swayed by marketing or endorsements from popular magazines without doing thorough research. For instance, many may reach for popular brands like Olay or the trending rosewater toners, mistakenly believing they're safe choices. However, according to experts, it's crucial to look beyond the shiny packaging and endorsements. Before purchasing any skin care product, consider checking its ingredients and reviews. Apps like Yuka can help, as they provide insights on product safety and efficacy. Products that are labeled as 'natural' or 'alcohol-free' aren't always skin-friendly. For example, Dickinson's Witch Hazel toner may seem appealing for its natural image, but many users have reported adverse reactions or poor results. Choosing the right products for your skin type is vital. Always perform a patch test when trying new items, particularly for sensitive skin. Moreover, understanding your skin's specific needs—whether hydration, exfoliation, or deep cleaning—can significantly impact your results. Consulting with a dermatologist or a skincare expert can also help you make informed choices. Remember, investing in quality skincare saves you time and money in the long run, preventing costly mistakes like those I experienced.

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