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Not independent anymore

I used to be super independent traveling to 30+ countries solo, living on my own since I was 18, and surviving anything life threw at me. But after getting with my boyfriend, things changed. He does literally everything: drives me everywhere, cooks, cleans, plans trips, handles groceries… and over time I stopped doing those things myself.

At first, I loved it. My friends are even jealous, saying I have a perfect boyfriend. But now I feel like I lost the version of me that was strong and independent. Whenever he’s away, I struggle to do basic chores I used to do so easily before.

Part of me feels like I’m finally being cared for after a rough childhood, but another part of me knows this might not be healthy long term. How do I find the balance between being loved and not losing myself?

#AskLemon8 #LetsChat #RelationshipTalk

2025/10/12 Edited to

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Sounds like you have an amazing boyfriend but I do understand where you are coming from. I have always done everything for myself. It sounds like you just need to sit and talk about it and find a good balance❤️ Good luck!

alicia__in__wonderland22🫀

thats so sweet of him to do🥰

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