Dealing with loss….
Hey,
This isn’t normal for me to post at all but, I’m needing some advice on losing someone close to you in a car accident. Backstory..— August 13th I get home from work and my husband is on the phone with me till I got home.. he hangs up and I get a news article about a hit and run with a death involved. I didn’t think much of it but something told me to call my grandpa, I have life 360 with my mom and husband (due to their occupations) and I saw my mom was at his house so, I call her. She answered and everything was ”fine”. So I just went on with mindless scrolling on Facebook. My husband comes inside and tells me “Papa has been in an accident….. he didn’t make it..” my jaw hit the floor. WHAT?!? my papa just turned 65 he was heathy he was active he was perfect! I immediately called my mom back and the first words out of my mouth “explain” she said “I can’t” I tell her I’m on the way. 30 minutes later we get there. The road is closed so we parked at an abandoned house. I’m greeted by flashing lights and silence… my cousin comes up with a hug and I ask how do we get to his house. We cut through the back yard of this house to the first street of the neighborhood. I hear don’t look back. Please. I glance back and it’s his truck. I immediately turn back and continue walking up this road that felt like it was never ending. I get to his house my granny balling her eyes out around everybody else crying. Weeping and hugs fill the yard and house. We have a big family so something like this hit the family hard. After I get my vision back from everything being taken in at once I go to my mom hug her and she tells me the got him. Thank God! He was found within 5 minutes of the accident. I was told papa was turning right to come home after doing some things at my great grandparents house. They have passed but the family still keeps the house and land up. He was coming home for the evening. The accident happened around 5:30. We didn’t leave his house till midnight. I have so many questions so so many. I guess my main question right now is, what do you do in this situation? I’m a Christian, I pray pray pray. I need something to do to keep my mind busy or all I think about is different ways this accident happened.
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