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40 +... change the Mindset 🚫, don't feel guilty about staying put.

We grew up with that Mindset.

What do you have to do all the time to be valuable?

If you stay put → you feel guilty immediately.

Have to find "something to do" to keep it busy.

📌, but I found a book. 📚

(The book "Want to stay put without feeling guilty")

Which is "dormant without a reason."

* No need to be productive all the time

* Don't rest to wade in

* Just stay still... because you want to stay still

And when I looked at myself, 🔎 I found

"We can't stand the void" more than we thought.

🔅 Pick up your phone and plow as soon as you're free for three or five seconds.

🔅 Leave the music / podcast / YouTube on but not on purpose.

Really listen.

🔅 eat, you have to watch the Tikis series.

⁉️ What's the use of being really passive? ⁉️

🤍 is a natural mental reset.

- > The stale thoughts will gradually clear themselves.

💛 Reduce the pressure we put on ourselves.

- > Many times, we are tired of the "feeling of having to do

What, all the time? "

🤎 reviewed the reconnect with myself.

- > When there's no trigger, we'll start hearing "voices inside."

Clearer.

📌 Things that have concluded with themselves.

To be passive, to be lazy, but to "give back space to the heart."

And not vie for productive.

And then you might discover that ❤️

Stillness... also has value in its own way.

# Develop yourself # Psychology # Mind health # 40 plus playing lemon8 # Change yourself

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... Read moreในชีวิตประจำวัน หลายคนรวมถึงตัวเองอดไม่ได้ที่จะต้องหากิจกรรมทำตลอดเวลา เพราะติดกับ Mindset ที่สอนมาตั้งแต่เด็กว่า “ต้องทำอะไรตลอดเวลา ถึงจะมีค่า” แต่เมื่อเราหยุดพัก หรืออยู่เฉยๆ มักจะรู้สึกผิดและไม่สบายใจทันที ตอนนี้ได้ลองปรับเปลี่ยนมุมมองใหม่ ด้วยการอ่านหนังสือ "อยากอยู่เฉยๆ โดยไม่รู้สึกผิด" ช่วยให้เห็นว่า การอยู่เฉยๆ ไม่จำเป็นต้องหมายถึงความขี้เกียจ แต่เป็นการให้เวลากับใจได้พักอย่างแท้จริง ซึ่งการมี "พื้นที่ว่างในหัวใจ" นี้เป็นการรีเซ็ตจิตใจแบบธรรมชาติ ทำให้ความคิดที่ค้างคาเคลียร์และจัดการได้ง่ายขึ้น ที่น่าสนใจคือ หลายครั้งเราพยายามหนีความว่างด้วยการหยิบมือถือไถๆ เปิดเพลง หรือดูวิดีโอโดยไม่ได้ตั้งใจฟังจริงๆ แต่จริงๆ แล้วการปล่อยใจให้นิ่งๆ ไม่มีกิจกรรมอะไรอย่างตั้งใจนั้น ช่วยให้ได้ทบทวนและ reconnect กับตัวเองมากขึ้น เหมือนได้ยินเสียงภายในที่แท้จริงชัดเจนขึ้น ทำให้เราเข้าใจความต้องการและอารมณ์ของตัวเองได้ดีกว่าเดิม อีกทั้ง การอยู่เฉยๆ ยังช่วยลดแรงกดดันที่เราสร้างขึ้นมาเองจากความรู้สึกว่าต้องทำอะไรตลอดเวลา ทำให้จิตใจไม่อ่อนล้ามากจนเกินไป และส่งผลดีกับสุขภาพใจโดยรวม ในมุมมองของคนวัย 40+ การฝึกฝนให้อยู่กับตัวเองอย่างสงบ ไม่ใช่เรื่องง่าย รวมถึงหลายคนอาจรู้สึกไม่คุ้นชินกับความว่างที่แท้จริง แต่พอลองเปิดใจและฝึกฝนเป็นประจำ จะค้นพบว่าความนิ่งและอยู่เฉยๆ ก็มีคุณค่ายิ่งในชีวิตเหมือนกัน และไม่ได้แย่งพื้นที่หรือลดความสำคัญของความ productive ในชีวิตประจำวันเลย ดังนั้น หากคุณกำลังรู้สึกว่า "ต้องทำอะไรเสมอ ไม่อย่างนั้นจะรู้สึกผิด" ลองเปลี่ยน Mindset ให้ "อยู่เฉยๆ ได้ไม่ต้องรู้สึกผิด" เพื่อคืนพื้นที่ให้ใจได้พักผ่อนอย่างแท้จริง แล้วคุณจะพบว่าความนิ่งมีพลังและคุณค่าในแบบของมันเองจริงๆ

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