Becoming a mom broke and re-made me 🦋

Motherhood felt like a cold plunge in the ocean. No matter how many books I read, how much advice I got-nothing could’ve prepared me for the shock. But the warm sun I felt on my face when I rose back to the surface- I wasn’t prepared for that either. My capacity for feeling had grown exponentially in both directions. The lows were painful, things I’d thought I’d healed from came roaring back begging to be seen. But the pure joy I feel when looking into my child’s eyes is a happiness I had never felt before. It is every cell in my body lit up with love.

Postpartum is hard- there’s no arguing that, but a factor I had never considered was how triggering it would be to my own wounded inner child. I felt grief for her. I cried for her and I chose to do better for my child. A gift, really. In choosing better I was breaking generational cycles, I was healing my lineage and giving my child the parent they deserve. Moms are incredible. I have a whole new appreciation for the strength of women.

I feel such heavy grief and such overwhelming joy all at once- I am infinitely softer and infinitely more ferocious, becoming a mother is sun and moon. Light and dark. Beautiful, complex, and cathartic.

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2024/2/28 Edited to

... Read moreMotherhood is an experience unlike any other, often described as a transformative journey filled with both love and vulnerability. New mothers frequently experience a ripple of emotions, from joy to grief, as they navigate the complexities of postpartum life. The challenges can feel isolating, as societal expectations often pressure new moms to maintain an image of constant happiness. However, many women are now sharing their journeys, breaking the taboo of discussing postpartum struggles openly. Resources are available for those who feel overwhelmed; advocacy groups like Postpartum Support International offer support and community connections to help mothers cope with the changes. Practicing self-care is essential, and methods such as mindfulness, yoga, and seeking therapy can offer respite. The joy of raising a child also brings about feelings of reflection, where mothers find healing in their own childhood experiences. This evolution not only benefits their mental health but also shapes the relationships they build with their children. Engaging in conversations with other moms about shared experiences can foster a sense of belonging and understanding. Embracing the duality of motherhood, acknowledging both the light and dark moments, ultimately leads to growth and deeper connections with loved ones. Moreover, the trend of 'scrunchy moms' showcases a community that prioritizes authenticity and realness in parenting. By embracing their true selves, these mothers challenge unrealistic portrayals of motherhood in media and provide relatable content that resonates with women around the world. This community support can be invaluable for mothers as they navigate their unique paths, reminding them that they are not alone in their experiences.

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It's amazing how such a lil person can make you feel all these feelings all at once lol...it's amazing!