Is it because of the brain that "No!" is not conveyed? The secret of the mysterious "image conversion" of a 2-year-old child
In the world, it is often called the "unpleasant period" and it is said that it is a time to trouble parents.
However, at this time when children strengthen their self-assertion, it is actually evidence that the brain is growing at a tremendous speed, not being selfish.
This time, we will approach the secret of such a child's brain development step ③ "image formation period (around 2 years old)"!
💡 happening in the child s brain at this time.
By the age of two, children acquire the ability to turn the words they hear into images in their heads.
It's a wonderful growth that allows you to quickly picture words in your head, but in fact, the brain at this stage has a slight characteristic.
It means that an error occurs when you hear a negative word.
🚫 "Don't run!" becomes "running video"?!
For example, let's say you go out and say "Don't run!."
Adults can understand "stop running," but the brain works differently during this period.
First of all, catch the word "run" and put "an image of yourself running energetically" in your head.
After that, an error occurs in the brain because the negative word "don't" can not be processed!
As a result, only the "running image" remains strong in my head, rather it runs more...
People tend to say, "I don't listen to you," or "I'm in a rebellious phase," but I don't mean anything to my child. I'm just in the middle of the steps that the brain processes images.
💡 to call out
In order not to cause errors in the brain, it is the best shortcut to tell "action you want to do (affirmative word)" as it is.
🚫 "Don't run!"
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✅ "Let's walk" "Let's go slowly"
Just by saying this, a "picture of yourself walking" will come to the child's head and it will be easier to move to action.
Just knowing the development of a child's brain without being swayed by "words of the world," you may be able to calm down a little and say, "Oh, my brain has made an error now."
What kind of calls do you make on a daily basis? Please let us know in the comments!
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私も2歳の子を育てていますが、「走らないで！」と言うたびに、逆に子どもが走り回って困っていました。この時期の脳は、言葉の否定をうまく処理できないためだと知って、とても納得できました。 実際に私が試してみたのは、「ゆっくり歩こうね」や「手をつないで歩こう」といった具体的で肯定的な表現に置き換えることです。すると、子どもは頭の中に歩くイメージを描きやすくなり、行動も落ち着くようになりました。 また、イヤイヤ期は子どもの自己主張が強くなるというよりは、脳がイメージ変換の発達段階にあるからこそ起こる現象だと考えると、焦らず見守る気持ちが持てます。親としても、否定の言葉を控え、子どもが理解しやすい肯定的な声かけを工夫することが、親子のコミュニケーションを円滑にする鍵だと感じました。 周囲から「言うことを聞かない」と言われて自己嫌悪に陥ることもありますが、脳の発育の過程を知ることで、子どもの行動に対して寛容になれ、イライラも減りました。同じような悩みを持つ方には、ぜひ脳の仕組みを理解して「イメージ変換」を意識した声かけを試していただきたいと思います。 子育ては日々の積み重ねです。私もまだまだ試行錯誤中ですが、この発達のヒミツを知ること で、親も子どもも少し楽になる体験を共有したいです。