Growing up to be a child who can do it without being told! The mechanism of the brain of 4-5 years old and the secret of talking
"I want to scream!!"... Oh, but now it's time to be quiet 🤫
Ever since you were over four years old, have you ever noticed yourself like this and seen you change your mind?
This is a time when people often say, "I became a senior and suddenly became solid" or "I became independent like an older brother or older sister."
In fact, it is evidence that a wonderful brake system called the control period of behavior (around 4 to 5 years old) is growing stronger in the child s brain!
And this is also the time when the relationship of "affirmative words" that mom and dad have steadily accumulated until now finally blooms in full bloom 🌸
💡 "Brake system of the brain" that grows after 4 years old
Until now, children were about to lose to the immediate desire of "I want to do it now!."
However, around the age of 4 or 5, you will have the ability to have a foresight and restrain your actions.
When stepping on this brake, what is reproduced in the child's head is actually "the words that adults have played so far."
🧠 in the head of a child who grew up with positive words
As shown in the illustration, a concrete and positive "image (word) of the correct answer action" that adults have applied so far.
"You walk here, don't you?"
"Because I cherish picture books, they remain beautiful."
These positive words are firmly installed (memorized) in the child's brain as it is.
Then, even if it is [where adults are not watching], the kind words of adults will be automatically reproduced in the child's head. It will be demonstrated as "autonomous mind" as it is, and you will be able to control yourself.
✅ all the calls i've made up until now were not in vain.
Everyday words that have been paraphrased as "Let's do ○ ○" to hold back the irritation at the time of the brain error around 2 years old and the why period around 3 years old.
There may have been a day when I was sad to say, "Even if I say it, it will not be conveyed at all...." However, in the child's brain, it was saved as a "correct answer image" for the rest of my life.
When a child becomes 4 or 5 years old and can choose the right action for himself, it is the moment when the "gift of words" that mom and dad have delivered with love has come to fruition ✨
The image of the correct answer installed firmly at this time will become the foundation of the future elementary school life and the autonomous mind from becoming an adult.
If you think "My child may have noticed it little by little!," please let me know in the comments 🌱
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子どもの4～5歳頃は、脳の「行動のコントロール期」と呼ばれる重要な発達段階です。この時期に育つ脳のブレーキシステムは、衝動的な欲求を抑え、先を見通しながら行動できる力を強化します。私も育児の中で感じたのは、この年齢になると急に子どもが自分の行動に気づき、切り替えができるようになる瞬間があるということです。 特に、日常の中で親がかける「ここは歩くんだよね」「絵本を大切にしているからきれいなままだね」といった肯定語が、子どもの脳の中に正解のイメージとしてインストールされることが大きな鍵だと実感しました。これが子どもの中で繰り返されることで、大人が見ていない場面でも自律的に行動できる基礎が築かれているのです。 私が幼児との暮らしで工夫しているのは、怒りやイライラを抑えつつ、できるだけ具体的で前向きな言葉を選ぶこと。たとえ短期間で効果が見えなくても、そ の積み重ねが必ず「行動のコントロール期」に花開くと信じて続けています。この経験から、育児の途中で「言葉かけが無駄ではないか」と悩む方にもぜひ励ましの言葉を送りたいです。 また、この時期に育まれた自律心は小学校生活や将来にわたる人格形成の土台となります。親としては、4～5歳のこの大切な機会を逃さず、日々の声かけを意識して続けていくことが子どもの将来を輝かせることにつながると感じています。子育ての中で、子ども自身が「自分で気づいて行動を選べる」姿に感動する瞬間をぜひ体験してください。