Is the advice you thought was good counterproductive? 5 tips for parents' "God response" that allows particularly delicate children to speak true

"How can I protect my vulnerable child?"

"I want to give you advice so that you can live a little easier!"

While raising HSC (children with exceptionally sensitive sensitivity) with exceptionally sensitive sensitivity, parents may be worried about their children more than anyone else like that.

However, thinking that it is good and being ahead or encouraging "You don't have to worry about it" can actually torment the delicate child's heart a little.

This time, we will introduce [5 points of how to get involved] for HSC children to grow up in their own way.

🌱 5 ways to communicate with a child who is too sensitive

① Creating an environment that does not get too much attention

For HSC, which is sensitive to the surrounding gaze and stimuli, it is recommended to have an environment where you can act freely without attracting too much attention. Also, by identifying and working on things that you can not do alone, but you can do with a little help of adults, you can promote effective growth and development.

② Do not deny the feelings of children

Against the anxiety that "I might be disliked" or "I might have a stomachache," it is very difficult for a delicate child to "do not mind" as a major premise. If you say "I don't have to worry about it!" here, it will cause you to close your heart saying "I can't understand even if I tell my mom..." First of all, accepting that anxiety as a whole leads to a healthy psychological bond and attachment from childhood.

③ Do not interfere too much ahead

If parents do not want to fail and give too much advice, they will deprive children of the opportunity to learn from pain and failure and adapt to society. Even if you do not clean up or leave your clothes off, sometimes you chuck it in your mouth. It is just right to reduce the frequency of speaking and see how it goes.

④ Be careful with the decisive advice

If parents preempt and decide on a conclusion, "That means XX, right?," HSC, who is good at reading the atmosphere, will not be able to express their true feelings according to their parents. "I see, you feel that way," the child will be deeply relieved, saying, "I understand!"

⑤ Try gently throwing "Why?"

As a characteristic of HSC, there is a tendency to be too patient when trying to fit in with the surroundings. When you refrain from your friends and take a step back, please ask the reason gently, Why did you do that? By accumulating experiences that are close to your feelings, it will be a great support for your child to positively understand your personality (characteristics).

👋 "Watching" is the best gift for parents

When you see your child in pain, you can't help but feel like your parents will act as a shield to get ahead of you. However, the best source of energy for HSC children is the absolute sense of security that "Mom and Dad are on your side no matter who you are."

When you just want to say something, hold back and chuck it in your mouth. The attitude of watching carefully may be the best way to develop your child s ability to live.

If you feel that your support in school is limited, don't hold it alone and feel free to consult with a school counselor, a professional medical institution, or a child psychology professional.

While borrowing the wisdom and support of third parties well, parents also relax their shoulders, let's find a comfortable sense of distance with parents and children!

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