Having worked as a labor and delivery nurse, I’ve witnessed firsthand how the support persons’ actions can greatly impact the birthing experience. While many partners try their best, some habits or reactions can unintentionally add stress or discomfort during an already intense moment. One common issue is when men make insensitive or dismissive comments about their partner’s pain or reactions. Labor is unpredictable and often overwhelming, and such remarks can feel invalidating rather than supportive. Another ‘ick’ is excessive nervousness displayed in ways that distract or upset the laboring person, like pacing nervously or making inappropriate jokes. Some men also struggle with understanding the medical processes, leading to frustration or complaining about interventions like epidurals. It’s important to stay informed and calm, as this helps create a positive environment. Additionally, there are times partners inadvertently focus on themselves—such as checking their phones too much or appearing disengaged—which can feel hurtful to the laboring woman. From personal experience, I recommend that men attend prenatal classes, read about labor stages, and ask questions beforehand to feel prepared. Simple things like holding your partner’s hand, offering reassuring words, and staying emotionally present can make a huge difference. Every labor is unique, so flexibility and empathy are key. Overall, awareness and respect toward the birthing partner’s experience can transform your role from a nervous bystander into a true source of strength during labor. Avoiding the ‘icks’ and focusing on genuine support not only helps your partner but also creates memories of this special time that you will both cherish.