As someone who has also navigated the complexities of forming close WLW friendships, I totally relate to the feeling of wanting friends who aren’t messy or weird but finding it challenging. The WLW community can sometimes feel small or insular, which might lead to encountering people whose energy or drama doesn’t match what you’re looking for. I realized that part of the challenge is finding spaces that reflect your values and interests, and where people feel safe to be their authentic selves. When my partner and I wanted to find better WLW friends, we started exploring LGBTQ+ events, supportive online groups, and local queer meetups, focusing on smaller, more curated settings rather than large, chaotic socials. This approach helped us meet people who were more grounded and aligned with our vibe. Also, it's important to remember that everyone has their quirks, but true friendships grow from patience, trust, and shared experiences. Sometimes giving people a little chance leads to meaningful connections, but it’s okay to set boundaries when the drama or weirdness becomes too much. Another tip is to broaden your interests and join communities that intersect with other parts of your identity or hobbies (like art, music, or activism). This often leads to meeting diverse individuals who can become great friends beyond just the WLW label. In short, finding more WLW friends who are genuine and drama-free requires some exploration, patience, and stepping outside of typical friend pools. But the reward is a supportive network where you can truly be yourself without worrying about messy or weird dynamics.